theres this guy, and weve known each other for 5 months on wed. 28th, well, he has a girlfriend, and has had one ever since ive known him? i love him, so i told him i would wait for him, he used to tell me he loved me to, and call me baby and stuff but then he stopped, we still talk, but hes so mean to me, every day, but i love him, and when i tell him im tireds of it, hes nicer. my friends all say that i should leave him alone, but i cant becaus ei love him. am i bein used?
2006-06-26 16:21:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes you are. He has a girlfriend, and he's keeping you on the sidelines just in case it doesn't work out. Leave him be. You deserve someone that can be with you and treats you with love and respect.
2006-06-26 16:25:33 · answer #1 · answered by tinydancer42001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on. Hes in a relationship with another girl. It isn't healthy for you to love a guy that has a girlfriend and who is mean to you. There are plenty of other guys out there that will like you back and that you would be happy with, but the only way to get that is too let this guy go. You need to make yourself happy.
2006-06-26 23:28:07 · answer #2 · answered by Bay Area Gal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you gave this guy some type of ego boost -- in a way, you were this comforting little ray of light that he could choose to acknowlegde or ignore as easily as he wanted. The fact that you agree to wait puts the power in his hands.
But what I think you should do is ask yourself WHY you love him. Love should be an equal exchange, and if he's not being consistent with his feelings, then maybe it's possible that you should consider whether you're in love with him, or the idea of someone like him. That makes a huge difference in what you consider love. And hon, you deserve more --- someone who makes sure to remind us how they feel about us. We all do.
2006-06-26 23:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by SweetestThing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no. if you have givin him anything then yes if you are just waiting then no. the reason hes being so mean is because he proubly loves you back but be careful guys are good liars wait till you know him well and are comfortable that he is honest person then you can move on in the relationship if he dumps her for you dont trust him if it kinda ends than go with it. try to move on though if its meant itll come around trust me if you want email me about the details and update me
2006-06-26 23:31:53 · answer #4 · answered by nck_luna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, he's not using you, you are hanging onto something that isn't there. He has all but told you he's not into you anymore, you just don't want to hear it. You may be a lot of things, but in love with him? I doubt it. You only think you do. You sound lonely, and in need of friends--but he isn't one of them. He already has a girlfriend, and he isn't going to get rid of her. You need to have more respect for yourself. Let this one go, and try and find someone who actually cares about YOU.
2006-06-26 23:30:38 · answer #5 · answered by Waferette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u knew that he had a girl friend . still u went for him? that's your fault. he has treated u like a friend.just calling u baby doesn't mean anything.you r not being used .u r using him.treat him like a good friend.if a boy talks to u & be nice to u doesn't mean that he should love u.he needs u as a friend not as a lover. so, be his friend if u can or leave him alone
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2006-06-26 23:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he was/is using you. You're waiting for someone who obviously doesn't want you to wait for him. He was probably just telling you that he loved you to keep you there, to make you happy. Men often know what to tell us to keep us within reach.
It's time to move along and find someone that's going to treat you the way that you deserve to be treated.
2006-06-26 23:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by SmilingG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup! he's just using you to get whatever that he wants if he can't get it with his girlfriend.. let go! condition your mind to let go.. coz that wouldn't be healthy for you. even if you say you love him now, you'll still have to suffer a lot of sacrifices in the future. your friends are right. leave him...
2006-06-26 23:35:09 · answer #8 · answered by d&r08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes honey im sorry to say, it sounds like you are being used. it sounds to me like he just wants you there in case he looses the other gal.
2006-06-26 23:27:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find someone else. he's keeping you on the side just in case. if he cared he'd be with you and wouldn't be mean either.
2006-06-26 23:43:54 · answer #10 · answered by gonetotallymad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋