like my brother will start by saying something like "haha, u look funny" and then my mom will tell him to stop, but then he won't and she'll start joining in and making fun of me and my body!! then after i get really upset and start crying and leave the room they're jus like "come on back we were just kidding". but i repeatedly tell them that it's NOT FUNNY. and i have really bad self-image issues anyway, and what they're doing is not helping. even my dad was in on it today, so i had the whole family staring at me and laughing.
help??
2006-06-26 16:20:17 · 11 answers · asked by lifeistough_period 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and even after they say that they'll stop, they'll make a joke again and be like "oh, right, sorry we're supposed to be stopping".
2006-06-26 16:21:03 · update #1
Your family sounds awfully insensitive. Sometimes people hide their insensitivity through humor (like Jay Leno). Your parents are not realizing the impact they have on your self-esteem. The only way to stop this is to have another adult intervene because (unfortunately), people don't tend to take children seriously. Talk to a school counselor or your teacher or any other reliable adult to have a serious discussion with your parents ONLY if you feel your family problem has not subsided within a period of time.
Lastly, people make fun of others to get a reaction out of the victim. If you don't respond to their insults with anger or any type of emotions, they will stop because it no longer becomes "fun".
2006-06-26 16:28:11 · answer #1 · answered by Ana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that sounds like an unhealthy environment for you to be in. I would recommend that you leave and if it is absolutely impossible for you to leave that context then you must take a stand.
First of all, you can not allow other people to control the way that your emotion. When you do so you are giving people more power then they deserve.
first of all you should have them stop them as soon as they start to do it, inform you family of how inappropriate they are being and how they are affecting the way you feel about yourself. If they are your family and do love you, you should be able to be sincere and honest with them. however they seem very insensitive and you might want to just leave the room and not give them the satisfaction of seeing you effected by their words.
A couple things,
1. monitor the way you think about yourself, when you walk into a room or when you are around others are you thinking negatively about yourself, and when you do, write it down. This is your self talk... replace those negative thoughts with positive thoughts.
2. i would look into counseling, because if this is an issue now then it will only get worse and will control you life for a long time. I am a counselor and i think that these actions would be healthy for you.
2006-06-26 16:35:22 · answer #2 · answered by Ahabmovement 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it with brothers and all the horrible things that come out of their mouth? I have a little brother, and he calls me fat, etc. You know why they're so mean? No self-confidence. It's a fact.....I once asked my best guy friend why a guy would tease a girl about sensitive stuff like this, and he said guys only do it when they feel bad about themselves. It's an outlet. So what if he's popular? Everyone still has moments of feeling unwanted, un-confident, and dorky. So that's why he says that to you. I encourage you to be strong and talk to him. Lay out that it makes you feel horrible everytime he makes a mean comment, and explain. If he continues, talk to your parents! They will want to help you, especially your mom, since she's also been through that teenage girl stage, and will understand your frustration. If that doesn't work, which I highly doubt, just stay strong when your brother taunts you. Whenever he says something mean to you, just say: "At least I'm not the one who has to put down 14 year old girls to feel better about themself" or something to that effect. He's NOT being cool or mature like he thinks. Hope this helps!
2016-03-27 05:27:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH, baby girl don't let them determine your self esteem, it comes from with in. This is a test of your strength now is the time to rise above (it's going to tough at first) and determine are you going to control how you feel about yourself or are they? If you let them decide then everybody that comes across in your life will have some determining factor in how you present you self esteem. Confidence rules even if you don't feel sure. There will always be feelings and opinions about how others look compared to you , but you have to know and feel from the soul you rise and stand tall in your self image. You have to live with you. Get the security now before you start looking for things outside of you to make you feel pretty, like DRUGS and SEX. Know your beautiful OWN YOUR BEAUTy and SELF- image.
2006-06-26 16:31:22 · answer #4 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you let them get the best of you, they will. I know, they are family, but your self esteem has to come from within...not anyone else. You have to find it in your heart to realize what a wonderful person you are. You will find that afterwards, you will find that it won't matter to you as much what your family says about you. They are probably doing it just to get a "rise" out of you, and it's working. Don't let them see that they are getting to you, as hard as it will be. You are a beautiful person. You'll see.
2006-06-26 16:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by Katie N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem like a very articulate young person. I'd have to say they are afraid of your intelligence so they have to cut you down to their level. Ask to go stay the summer at your grandma's or Aunt's house.....maybe they'll pick on each other and get a dose of their own medicine.
2006-06-26 16:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick a night where the whole family is home.and tell them that we need to talk ,tell them how you fell .because if they keep on making you feel lower than dirt .your going to end up hurting your self and I don't think they want that to happen.If they don't want to stop talk to a teacher ,your friends parents.something because family should be helping you and not hurting you.Good Luck.
2006-06-26 16:50:35 · answer #7 · answered by Butterfly Queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay the easeist way to deal with them is to agree to them. make fun of yourself but at the same time diss on them abit. like if your brother says your funny looking tell him you guys have the same genes so he looks just as funny or if your mom starts in be like well it was your egg
2006-06-26 16:25:09 · answer #8 · answered by nck_luna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just making friendly jokes, but if it bothers you that much you should see the school phsycyatrist about your self-issue problem, he/she will help you step over the stones.
2006-06-26 16:28:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be as beautiful as you think you are. If your family cannot see your true beauty, make them see it.
2006-06-26 16:57:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋