Sorry to bring this up, but how do you deal with the fact that those you love are eventually going to die?

Answer 1

My stepdad (whom I have always considered my "real" dad) has lung cancer, so I am forced to deal with this. I just lost my mom to a 5-year-long battle w/aplastic anemia. i am only 16 and this is rough, but the only way i have found that death can be prepared for is by making the absolute best of every minute you have with them while they are still kickin'.

Answer 2

Hey good question. I think the response with the most substance so far to your question has been from the Princess regarding reincarnation.

What are the most important aspects of life. Certainly life is relational and it would therefore follow that people matter the most in life. But if we are all going to "return to the dirt" and there is no afterlife -good or bad- what is the point to living an ethical life? If we are all solely biological creatures, then where does morality play a role in our lives, or should it play a role?

Wrapped up into your question is another question: Are human beings good when they are first born?

I have found that the most captivating worldviews stem from the 3 Abrahamic faiths: Islam, Judaism and Christianity. Each has its good and bad aspects. I would only advise to judge a worldview not based on its followers, but on the teachings and life of its founder.

Great question, and keep on asking the right questions.

Ryan

Answer 3

I deal with this by trying to enjoy every day that I have with them. No one lives forever, I personally wouldn't want to (it would get boring after awhile), so I live each day to the fullest and hope that other people do too. I think that if they are sick it is better for them, they no longer feel pain although in a sense it has been passed on to me in the form of sadness. Hope this helps, it makes it a little easier for me, I've lost 3 grandparents in the last 2 years, all three with alzheimer's and other problems, I knew they were dying which in a way is harder than if it's fast.

Answer 4

Some of those I love have died. The rest will eventually die, as will I (possibly not in that order). Everyone dies eventually; you will deal with the losses when they happen. You don't have to "deal with" what will happen, since you can't change it - just accept it as the way the world is, and enjoy them while they are here.

Answer 5

Having lost both parents, I know I can grieve without falling apart. I can miss them and remember them. It is similar to leaving friends behind at graduation, going to different schools, and never be likely to see them again. It does not feel good, but it is something that will happen whether I want it to or not, so I don't worry or think about it too much.

Except to abide by the old advice, to treat loved ones as if they would be leaving tomorrow. Let them know you enjoy their company, care about their health and that they are a part of what makes you such a nice person.

Answer 6

It's hardest to deal with, I think, if you're confused about what
happens to the person who dies.

Maybe your worried about the pain of being 'without' the person you love - or... you've just realized you need to figure out what you believe death is.

If it's the pain of living without; I think that we're 'here' to experience difficulty and pain. If you're on a knowledge quest...
you're in for a ride. It took me over three years of putting this and
that together to make up what I thought was 'my own' belief system. Just when I thought I was the only one with it figured out, I discovered that I fit the category of an Gnostic.

To sum up - I believe in reincarnation, and also remember several past 'lives' here, but most importantly, try reading up on
near-death experiences. It's almost universal the experience of
death, and it might help to not be afraid yourself, or for the one's
you love so much. Hope this helps. : )

P.S. From a scientific standpoint, we're made of matter,which is made of energy - and energy cannot be destroyed, only change
forms. So where does one's personality come from? Are we energy? What form do we take at that instant of 'death'?

Answer 7

For most people I know, including when my mother passed away, I reminded myself constantly that their passing is actually a beautiful birth into the next life. The loftiest station in this life, that of queens and kings, isn't even a speck of dust compared to the lowest part of heaven. The life beyond this one is far, faaaaaar greater than anything we even begin to imagine. Their body will die in this life, but their soul is born into the next life. It's a beautiful, wonderful thing!

When my mom passed, I was very happy for her. I thought of her finally being free from illness (she had a super bad case of morphea scleroderma). I imagined her happier than anyone in this life has ever been. I imagined her being in a place so wonderful, so absolutely beautiful, that she couldn't believe God could be so loving, so generous, as to give her this next life.

For my dad, it will be harder. I'm definitely a "Daddy's Girl," so losing him will be very very difficult, I'll miss him terribly. However, the above applies to him too, to everyone who wants to be close to God.

I like to call it "Passing" instead of "Death." No one dies, only their shell, but their soul lives forever. One is even more alive after passing this physical world than they are while in this physical world!

Answer 8

don't think about the inevitable think about today and all the memories you have made if you think about death all the time you are going to be depressed all the time because in 30 years you are gonna look back and regret thinking of that. So live for the day and like its your last have a GREAT day...

Answer 9

When I was growing up I always used to think about that, but one day my fourth grade teacher was like just love your love ones while you can and think about the good things. So my advice to you is just live life to it's fullest and love everyone every single day. If you think about them dying then you won't have fun with them when their living. Of course we're all going to die one day but we should be happy while we're on this earth. Thanks for listening to my advice.

Answer 10

its inevitable, we are all going to day eventually. its can be hard to accept that your loved ones will die but its part of life and you cant change it. just let them know you love them each day and when the time comes it will make their passing easier for you to handle.