i dont want her to hate me but that is very bad
2006-06-26 16:03:13 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You definitely need to confide in an adult. Talk to your Mom and ask her to talk to the girls mother. If your Mom feels she can't do this, or you don't feel you can ask her, then it is up to you to talk to your friend and tell her you are worried about her and that if she doesn't smarten up you will tell her Mom.
Does she realize that it is probable that she will get pregnant without proper precautions? Ask her. Does she realize that she is running the risk of HIV/Aids, chlamydia, viral warts and a whole host of other diseases? Ask her. You could also look under sexually contracted diseases on the Internet with her and show her what some of these diseases can do to her. Does she know that sex is not the same as love and a lot of boys out there will just be using her body for their pleasure without a thought to her well-being or reputation? A reputation for being easy at thirteen will follow her, at least through the rest of her school life. A bad reputation is easy to get and almost impossible to lose. Tell her.
If, after talking to her, she continues on this path then you must make the difficult decision as to stay friends with her or not. I would tell her that you can't stand to watch her ruining her life and that as long as she keeps doing what she's doing you can no longer be friends. Above all don't allow her actions to influence you in any way.
2006-06-26 16:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel and tell her all the risks she is taking by having sex. She can get std's or get pregnant and she is so young! If she doesn't listen to you, you should really talk to an adult, actually - either way you should really talk to an adult, preferably her mom or your mom.
Your friend might "hate" you but you are doing her a favor. She is gambling with her health and her future. There is nothing wrong with telling an adult whats going on because they can do something to help stop it - or at least her parents might take her to the doctor to get checked out and get on birth control if she continues to be sexually active.
Best thing you can do is talk to your mom and maybe have your mom talk to her mom - or just talk to the girl's mom if you feel comfortable enough. You will be doing your friend a huge favor, even though she won't realize it.
2006-06-26 23:08:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there's no right way to tell her that you think what she's doing is wrong. The best thing to do is tell her that you feel she's too young right now and you're afraid for her. If she doesn't want to stop, there's not anything you can really do besides asking her if she's at least using condoms or other birth control methods. If you feel the need to tell her parents, be warned that she probably won't associate with you anymore. Or you can always disassociate yourself from her if you're uncomfortable. Good luck.
2006-06-26 23:12:01 · answer #3 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could tell her mom or you can tell her that you are very worried about her and that you care about way too much to see her get hurt or hate herself for having sex so early.tell her that she should wait to do it with a person that loves her as much as she loves him. cuz she will regret it maybe not now but later in the future!
2006-06-26 23:13:50 · answer #4 · answered by candy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her about it and say it could get her in a lot of trouble and if she still carries on then tell her mum I'm sure she'd be interested to know but don't say you told her mum that would be a bad move
2006-06-27 15:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just open you mouth and tell her !! explain it to her. She sounds to have low self esteem issues..
Sex is for adults and some of them are not mature enough for it.
Any one can have sex but that doe snot mean that they should and at her age it is wrong.. You may want an adult to know ..
She is being taken advantage of at her age ..
2006-06-26 23:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by s1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as her friend you have to talk to her. if she hates you because you are trying to do the right thing for her because you are worried maybe that's the way it has to be. as her friend you can't just sit and watch her make a mistake. explain to her that if you weren't her friend and didn't care about her you wouldn't bother with what she does. good luck :)
2006-06-26 23:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by gonetotallymad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i hope you dont do that and you shd prolly tell one of her parents but best her mum.if you really like her,you would tell her mum or dad before thinking if shes gonna hate you cuz you know wats best for her.
2006-06-26 23:16:41 · answer #8 · answered by ♥D@t_bLaSiaN♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask me you should just tell her. If it helps ne....I would hope my best friend would tell me. You sound like an awesome friend to worry about her like that.
Its really awesome you care enough to worry.
2006-06-26 23:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by ready4answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drop a note to her mother...
I bet she would be very interested in this "new thing" your friend is into...
Especially her FATHER!!! She may "live", but, I cant guarantee that one :)
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-06-26 23:07:51 · answer #10 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋