I have a boss who likes to make you feel stupid. She makes you feel be littled, intimates you.?

Question

Before working there I have been a strong person and now I feel like I have been abused. I am never happy any more. People that usually make me happy don't. I am always down on myself. I used to be happy with everything and smile all the time. I sometimes feel that my life is about to end. I am getting married in September and I don't want to feel unhappy when it should be the happest day ever. Tomorrow she wants to talk to me about something that I just forgot to do and I have no idea on how to tell her with out her yelling at me. I feel like a child. Please help me.

Please...

Answer 1

Unless she chains you to your desk....

QUIT!

Find another job. Life's too short to work for petty tyrants like that.

Answer 2

Faith, summon back that strong woman you were and have her come back. Go into the meeting knowing the boss is gonna blow he*l and keep thinking to yourself "her temper is gonna be the soon end to her.....oh well (sigh) no great loss to Earth".

One thing that helps for me in such situations is imagining them in some goofy amusement park outfit while they're blowing out red-faced.....I've actually burst in laughter to their astonishment. Then I follow up with "Ok...you want this done this way and that done that way....Gotcha....anything (giggles) else while we're here?" They ask what's wrong with you, say "Nothing work related; saw something funny on TV last night and (giggles) it popped back into my mind". They can't fire you....and if they do, with NO legal grounds, get a lawyer. That'll make their day.

I'd also be quietly searching around for a better job and work enviroment to be in. When you get the job, simply quit your old one with NO notice. When asked why, tell HER SUPERVISOR, "Hey, she's a b**ch that's making other good employees run away. She's hurting--NOT helping the business".

Faith, your strong self is there; you have to bring her back and I know you can do it.

Answer 3

Be strong, and tell her how you feel. A good boss should listen to you, if not, is there someone higher than her you can talk to if she doesn't listen? And be happy about getting married to someone you love, don't let other things get in the way of your happiness. If your boss doesn't treat you right, try finding another job, it's not worth the stress of being in a job where you don't feel happy or yourself. Good luck.

Answer 4

The best thing for you i feel will be to change your job.Where u do not have peace of mind u can not work properly.If somehow u are not able to change the same presently then u ought to have a direct talk with your employer about the way you fell you are being treated.Because sometimes such people cannot realise themselves what they are doing,may be after having a discussion she may change her behaviour.You have also to check out whether your boss is a satisfied wife from the point of view of sexual life.Unsatisfied may be one of the reasons.So you can decide the course to follow yourself.

Answer 5

if you have even one day of vacation accrued, take it and go job hunting! make a killer resume over the next few days, post on monster.com, check your want-ads, go to an adecco in your area, and get the freak outa there. nobody wants to feel like a ladder rung, and especially when there's no competition for this lady. she's already your boss, so what glory does she get by exerting her power over you? she's obviously not the type who will change or even listen to common sense confrontation about this, so you need to leave before you start to believe that you are the way she tries to make you think you are. if your company is big enough and you can go to another department, DO IT, but otherwise, resume, vacation day, job hunt! BEST of wishes!

Answer 6

Sometimes women bosses feel like they have to be like that to prove something. Sometimes they will back off and treat you better if you stand up to them. I'm not saying be aggressive or mean, I just mean, don't back down. Be strong.
Don't let her get to you. She probably sees the affect she's having on you and it's making it worse. I know it's hard but don't let her ruin your life. She isn't that important.
Look again to those people who make you happy and focus on them. Leave your work behind you when you go home.

Answer 7

talk back to her and if you lose your job, be happy! that will give you an excuse to get a different job. you will always look back on this time in your life since you are about to be married, so make the best of it and take your chances now while you can!

Answer 8

Please try to find another job. I was in the same situation and put up with it for as long as I could stand it. I too got married while at my stressful job and I found myself worrying about my job while I was planning for my wedding. Trust me, you can find another job and it will be worth it to get out of that hell hole! I walked away and I have never regretted it since. I have a new job and I couldn't be happier.

Answer 9

you need to go over her head. that is harrasment. you can actually sue for this the same as sexual harrasment.get a lawyer to talk to you and tell you what to do they will talk to you for free for about an hour .go to a couple sometimes they will even just call you back on the phone.most companies will pay up other than go to court its cheaper. that will get that crazy loon fired.let her try to get another job the noone will want her for fear she will get them sued.karma baby karma

Answer 10

It's not always as simple as it may sound but if you are in a position where your values and dignity are always in question, then quitely and politely turn anything that belongs to the company on her desk and say "I quit". Then in a clam mannor, turn and walk out.