Woman is raped & ends up pregnant. should she keep the child, get an abortion or put it up for adoption? Why?

Question

Please people...you're giving me obvious answers. I know she can do any of the above thats why I put it up there...What would you do and why?

Answer 1

I know I could never really understand the full trauma, but I would never have met the love of my life had his mother aborted him when she was raped at the age of 15. She did put him up for adoption, but it was within family.

It may sound selfish, but I was really having a rough life until he came along. We have a very beautiful son named Shyne. I couldn't ask for much more.

If its not too traumatic, maybe she ought to at least have the baby. Infants get adopted quickly, so it won't be floating around some agency.

Me...I would keep my child. I know that the child is half mine. I don't think it would be traumatic for me, because I would focus on the innocent child. After all, you really never what this child has to offer society. Even if I were broke, that's no excuse to kill someone. There are way too many gvmt funding progs. that support families in need. I would do anything for my child.

Answer 2

It would be up to the woman, however, if it were me I would either keep the child (if I had the financial means) or put it up for adoption. I would not have an abortion. I feel like if someone raped me and then I have an abortion I am just extrapolating their evil. First they raped someone, and now a baby loses its chance to have a good life. Two wrongs don't make this situation right. But it is a tough one because for some women the baby would be a constant reminder of their raping. But for some women the baby could be the best thing that ever happened to them.
ps- A very low percentage of rape victims do become pregnant because when being raped the body is under very high amounts of stress which makes it difficult to concieve.

Answer 3

I believe it depends on the situation she got raped...was she dressed to impress or was it a suprise attack like getting into a car in a mall parking lot. Does she know the guy or was it a stranger, Is he still alive or is he in Jail... Is she a Christian does she believe Abortion is right? I think that people who are against abortion cant have much say until they are put into someones shoes. I think that She has the right to have an abortion but for the childs sake should put it up for adoption. Also if she has the money to raise a child...But if anything the MAn should be in Jail!!!

Answer 4

Well it depends. Does she want to be reminded of the person that raped her? Also why would she spend the next 9 months with a constant reminder of what happened?

I can see if she is pro-life, she should put it up for adoption. But there will be ramifications in the future... what if the child wants to seek out his or her biological parents? I don't think the child should be put through that kind of journey to find out that his or her father was a rapist and that his or her mother was a victim.

If she wants an abortion, then go ahead, but be aware that having one can damage the interior walls of the uterus and may prevent her from having children in the near future.

Answer 5

That is going to depend entirely on the woman. I think many women would struggle with the idea of carrying a child conceived from such a traumatic experience. But other women would be equally traumatized having an abortion. Some women are ready to parent a child, whereas others are not, no matter how it may have been conceived. Really no right answer to a question like this; I'm just glad that our current laws allow the woman to decide this very personal question for herself.

Answer 6

I think that they should either keep the child or give it up for adoption.. Its wasnt the womans or the childs fault that the rape happened. I dont believe in abortions unless its a life or death situation.. It will be hard on the rape victim to have an abortion... but they can always give the baby up for adoption..

Answer 7

Keep the baby if she knows she can care for it and provide for it to let it live a fulfilled and safe life.
If she doesn’t think she can, put it up for adoption. There have been 4 adoptions in my family, and one more in the process. There are so many families that want babies SO badly but can’t have them.
Don’t have an abortion!! If its all about rights, where are the baby’s rights?! That precious child is alive and has a heartbeat and deserves the same chance at life that we have. One crime (rape) is not solved by another crime (murder!).

Answer 8

Abortions are dangerous in that the female often ends up with complications, periods end up going longer, bleeding heavier and they end up having their ovaries removed. Some women can't ever have babies again after an abortion. I say bring the baby to full term and find it a home through adoption. So many people, like me, have been sexually abused, assaulted and are unable to have children, I'd give anything to bear my own child. I cannot. I hope someone would have it in their heart to give away a child who is a product of a rape, so someone like me and thousands of other women could experience motherhood.

Answer 9

Honestly, thats a tough one to answer. I say this as I am pro-choice. But I feel that maybe an abortion is the best solution, but I equally feel that this is a baby/child and just because the father is a low-life motherfu*king aszhole does not nessessitate that the baby isn't going to be a good person. BUT thats where my pro-choice comes in. The female who has been raped in my opinion does have the option as she should to abort this pregnancy.

Answer 10

It really depends on her personal beliefs .. I would think that keeping it would be hard to do it would remind (her) of the incident for the rest of her life. Also assuming she is single, it is going to be hard on her life.

Adoption is not easy either, she would have to go thru child birth and give up the child after that.

Abortion is also hard there is pain to know you could have brought a life into the world. I believe that there is a risk of not being able to get pregnant again either.

Sorry to say no option is easy.. I would suggest that she talk to plannned parent hood or some other organization, (non religous) to provide all facts about each solution available.