Husband had an affair and moved out but says he wants to make it work and still loves me.
2006-06-26 15:12:27 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No one can ever repair a marriage after an affair..Why? Because the damage has been done. The only right thing to do is move on and start a new life together (that is if you are both willing to still go on). . it's as if your starting over again. treat the past as a close book.
2006-06-26 22:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
oh dear you poor thing. Men can be so unsensitve sometimes.... I am with you girl! I think it is up to him to prove to you that he is loyal and that it will never happen again. Let him buy you, serve you and treat you like a princess for a while. Make sure you tell him that it is his LAST chance. And if it happens again, there is noooooooo way back. If he does it again, oh well, there are plenty of fish in the sea dearest. I know how much this hurts now, but just remember that the pain is completely gone once the next cute handsome guy knocks on your door! Goodluck!
2006-06-26 15:19:59 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him back home make him wine and dine you. I must warn you I feel if you take him back after an affair you will be waiting for the next affair. Once a cheater with a peter always a cheater with a peter. Move on or go to marriage counselor.
2006-06-26 15:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-15 07:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly you are the victim in this situation, which means you are in control. So, the question is: what do YOU want?
It seems like your husband lacks the security and confidence to make a decision. It is your right to decide your future, since apparently your husband did not think about it when he had that affair.
I wish you the best, and remember, you are in control.
2006-06-26 15:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Rico A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages always need help. Prayer, counseling, and talking is the best way to get through hard times. You know how some folks say that marriage is sacred. They get it from the Bible. Reading it alone with God and with your husband will help as well. God takes care of his children. If you haven't become a Christian, go to a church and ask about it or you can go to crosswalk.com. The website can explain a lot of questions. Take your husband also.
2006-06-26 15:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by Sugar High to Love High 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are at all spiritual, or even if not, just pray that whatever you believe in or aren't sure that you believe in will take the pain away. Also, pray for the person you hate right now. It will help. It is the last thing you want to do at this moment, but it will help so much. I did this once, and I laughed when my friend told me to. I was desperate enough to try it, and it did take the pain away. Then I could move on.
2006-06-26 15:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Shelley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a big step. Honesty is a must. You should ask yourself first, if you will be able to forgive and forget 100% before moving forward. A good chance it would come up later on. And that is understandable. But eventually he might get tired of dealing with it, althought it was his mistake. I think the choice is merely yours. Personally, I'm not sure if I could do it. Strength be to you!
2006-06-26 15:19:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go out and have a stiff drink then slap yourself in the face. if you did take him back the doubt would always be in the back of your mind and you would wonder where he was or what he was doing if you couldn't get ahold of him. Don't torture yourself like that honey, you are way to special for that! Goodluck girl!
2006-06-26 15:18:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to eachother honestly and openly about everything. You should also get a good marriage counselor and start going, so you can get your marriage on the right track.
2006-06-26 15:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋