Divorce.... ?

Question

I have been married for 22 years and I want to know how can I ask my wife for a divorced? Every time I bring it up we fight... I'm in love with another lady who is 34 years younger then me. I'm 53 and she is 20... i wanna marry her and have a baby with her...

the 20 year old is my son friend... thats how i met her

This relationship with the 20 year old girl has been going on since sept. 2005

this is NOT the first time i cheated on my wife!

Answer 1

Guys like you give all men a bad name. Tell your wife you love another, I almost guarantee SHE will divorce YOU!!! And if she sticks around, I feel sorry for her.

Answer 2

Well If you seriously don't want to be married to your current wife any longer, tell her the truth. Tell her that you don't feel the same way about her as you once did. But when you bring up divorce, make sure that it's not during a fight because she will just think that you said you want a divorce out of anger. But before you even tell her you want a divorce, make sure you completely analyze both relationships, 22 years is a LONG time. Is that something you just want to walk away from? if certain things change, would you stay in the relationship with your wife? and for the mistress, 20 years old is quite young is she ready to settle down and have kids and a husband and ready to put herself aside and put you and the unborn child first? why would you want to get a divorce and get married again right away? If you're that unhappy in your marriage, you should get a divorce and give yourself some down time to find yourself. You may think that you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her but If we don't get certain things out of our marriage, we look for it elsewhere. So you may not even love the mistress, you may just like the attention you get! anyhoo, I hope you do the right thing and I hope this helps!

Answer 3

If this is a serious question, then I think you truly need to step back and take a good look at your life, all you've been through and where you are now. Men have mid-life crisis', and this sounds very much like such. How long has it been going on wiht the younger girl? What do you think will happen in 10 years, when she's 30 and you're 63??? Why would you want to be with her, what do you have in common? The same for her, why be with a much older man? Don't throw away a solid marriage for a very highly unlikely happy and forevermore union. Try talking with your priest/rabbi - whomever. This is a major, major life decision - don't take it lightly and without deep and serious consideration. Best of luck with whichever way you choose.

Answer 4

Why is your avatar a woman? That's wierd.

anyway, I don't think the 20 year old really cares about you. She's a little girl. As for you, I hope your wife in the divorce sues you so hard that you don't even get the food stamps!

22 years to you, I hope you get ED erectile disfunction due to enlarged prostate, and watch your little new bride start banging your son again. And when you clutch your chest you old ba$tard, you watch your wife of 22 years start screwing your best friend.

Answer 5

Do you hnestly think the young girl will stay with you? I was with a 52 year old when I was 22 and I will admit I only used him for money and never had any plans on staying with him. I told him ever line in the book as long as the money kept rolling in, so you might want to rethink all of this. Is the money you will have to pay your wife worth the risk of this younger girl eventually leaving and going out with a man her own age?

Answer 6

That age difference is disturbing. You could almost be her grandfather. Sounds like she's a gold digger. Think about this - if you marry her right now and have a child, you will be 63 before your child graduates elementary school. Don't do it, if you're unhappy with your wife go to therapy and work this out in a logical manner. If you're still unhappy then separate, divorce, whatever you need to do. Hold off on the marriage to the kid though.

Answer 7

you know that is okay in a lot of cultures but that is because they are arranged. and the twenty year old does not know what she is doing she is going to wake up one day and realize i married an old man when your 70 and as old as my father whe will be 40 and wishing she would have made a better choice. and this shows that there are already problems in your marriage so i say don't slowly go into the conversation just say it before there is a fight and then serve her with the documents from a lawyer

Answer 8

i thinnk you should just move out and leave your wife, it is not fair to your wife for you to be seeing this young lady.if she wants to argue then call the cops and have them there when you are packing to keep the peace. the officer will let you pack your clothes and then leave without her saying anything to you. or do it when she is at work. Are you sure you want to do this?i eman are you 100 % sure you want ot end your marriage of 22 years for a 22 year old that might not want you in a few years???good luck.

Answer 9

Are you serious. There's no way that's going to work. If your going to get a divorce then that's fine, but not for a 20 year old. Come on! I thought the old where wiser.

Answer 10

if you have money, she only like you for your money, if not when you marry her she going to cheat on you in a year or two because you wont be able to satisfied. and you wont be able to keep up with activities. and she's as old has your son you are sake. you been married for 22 year stay with the wife .

Answer 11

Oh dear. Honey this isn't good. You got yourself in a mess. 34 years is too young. I think your fantazining about what you know you can't have. Don't do it. She gave you 22 years of her life. You willing to throw it all away? Get counseling honey. Save the marriage.