I'm 24, female, my friend is 23 .I think she uses me and it's bother me. What if not?
On Friday night we went into Blockbuster choosing movies. SHe asked "have you seen that one?" And when I said that I hadn't....
she:" I didn't ask you, I asked her(our other friend who was with us). So after that all the time I was keeping silent. She didn't care. Today, when I came into her house for Bible-study she was in her room,taking a nap and looked at me like"What????What??? I don't feel good, go away!". So I went out. 15 minutes later We heard her laughing. I left in ah hour, when Bible study was finished. She called me 1 hour later asking why I din't say BYE. I answerd that I didn't want to bother her... She was rude to me on the phone but I stayed cool.
It looks to me that she wants to fight with me and then take some of my energie during the fight and ....everything will be fine again.Plus when she gives her opinion on some things it's always PAINFUL truth!!
2006-06-26 14:53:46 · 12 answers · asked by Young_woman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She made my hubby stoned and asked him what was his first sexual experience so that later ..She told me that she knew my husband in some intimate details that I DON'T!!!
Now, I'm getting ready for an exam and I can't hang out with her...she says:"If GOd wants you to pass you'll pass without studing!!! I never study". I said"I do, that's why my thesesis for BA was the best in college!"...SHe said"It cannot be possible"...
2006-06-26 15:11:54 · update #1
She considers herself a VIRGIN! But I don't think so because having oral sex with several guys ...
If nobody ****ed you but put his d... in your mouth is virginity?!!!
2006-06-26 15:14:22 · update #2
You call that a friend? I don't. I just call it someone you know. She certainly isn't a friend. I find it rather ironic you were having a bible study together .. and she treats people like that.
If it were me, I would distance myself from her. Be kind to her and speak to her when your paths cross, but you don't need to talk to her on the phone or call her or hang out with her. Find some real friends to hang out with!! If you do have to talk to her for some reason, keep it to the point (like if its bible study business or something), then excuse yourself nicely and hang up. If she asks you why you aren't hangin gout with her or whatever, you are under no obligation to explain! Just say you have other things to do, if you say anything at all.
If you choose to, you can be honest and tell her that being around her brings you down, so you have chosen to hang around more positive influences, but that is only if you feel up to doing that.
You deserve to have some real friends who treat you with love and respect, and they are out there looking for you!!
2006-06-26 15:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sounds really immature, I'd find new people to hang out with. I don't know if you guys have a long friendship history or if she is a relatively new friend, but she seems like she has an attitude and a childish outlook on things. You're better off without her. If you want to stay friends though (and for her own good) I'd start telling her exactly what you think of her. When she got mad that you didn't tell her "bye", tell her exactly what you wrote here. Stay calm and cool like you don't really care, but let her know exactly why you aren't wanting to hang around her. She may be so immature that she really doesn't see what she's doing is wrong.
2006-06-26 21:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by Surferchic50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds jealous or angry at you for some reason... Maybe trying to impress the other friend? I don't know for sure, but what ever the reason... You have to think about #1 !!! Don't call her, don't show up for bible study at her house, go somewhere else, be busy when she calls to go out for a movie... When she asks why your avoiding her, tell her the truth (she might have a reason for acting this way, but don't let her pull any wool over on you. If it not your fault, don't' let her make you feel like it is)...or Maybe she'll understand and try to stop. I believe in second chances, but three strikes and your out. If she wants your friendship, she'll change. She is not worth you always feeling down about yourself and being silent when you together... Your not having fun when you have to be like that!!! Take care. Hope it works out.
2006-06-26 22:07:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't sound like a pleasant person. Back away from her for a bit. If she misses you in her life, she'll come looking for you, at that point let her know how you are feeling and that you don't consider her behavior to be the way friends should treat one another. If she isn't willing to mellow out and be less rude, you may have to decide if you can accept her as she is, or if she's not someone you care to hang around with anymore.
2006-06-26 21:58:28 · answer #4 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seriously need to end that friendship, because she seems like no friend. She has no business asking your husband sex questions. Is SHE the one wearing a ring on her forth finger-left hand? I don't think so. You have to stand up to her,and fast. And please tell me you have the guts, please. Wow, I can't express enough how badly you need to end it with her. And by the way, it seems like your so called "friend" is itchin for a good cussing out is what it sounds like. Please tell her that its over with, and if she steps within 5 feet over your husband tryin to talk sex again that you will seriously ring her neck. You should also have a talk with your husband because just as well as your friend was wrong for overstepping her bounderies, he was also wrong for even sharing that information with her in the first place.
2006-06-26 22:24:56 · answer #5 · answered by Brittanie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bummer...you know if she is saying things that hurt you, she isn't your friend, just an opinionated brat! And you are correct she is taking your energy. Don't let her continue. Find new friends, you deserve better!
Mom & Dad always told me if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.
Only arrogant, narcisstic people tell the "truth" when it is hurtful to people.
2006-06-26 22:17:31 · answer #6 · answered by dixie_til_i_die 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, What a b*tch!!! It sounds like she has some serious self esteem issues and she find it easy to take it out on you. You would do well to stay away from her and find someone else to hang out with. If you do keep hanging out you are going to get depressed.
2006-06-26 22:02:44 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey she is a b i t c h ! You need to find a real friend who won't treat you that way. Girls like that call themselves blunt or honest but that is not the case. She is jelous of you and is mean to make herself feel better believe it or not.
2006-06-26 21:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by Dream Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she's playing a power game with you. When she's rude and you don't fight back, she thinks she's "won" and you are weak and she's strong. For me, the definition of a friend is someone who I enjoy and who enjoys me. Unless you enjoy being a punching bag as much as she enjoys punching I would suggest you lose this "friend".
2006-06-26 22:14:28 · answer #9 · answered by Molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend is the same way! I've tried to tell her that I don't wanna be friends anymore countless times! She always turns in around to me and makes me feel bad about it, so we stay 'friends'.
2006-06-26 21:58:15 · answer #10 · answered by roxy81492 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋