Ive known this family since i was 10. Im 20 last month. And they have a daughter that ive known and talked to since she was like 4. Now shes 14 almost 15. Problem is shes develeped in to a babe, and she likes me the way ive also liked her too, and i have discussed it with her for the longest time. We have interest in eachother for the past YEAR!
Funny thing is her parents know and they dont care, infact they invite me over and actually call me SON in LAW. Its as if they want us to be together. So what do i do? I told steph id wait for her to turn 18 before we can officialy date,but she drives me crazy, and her parents encourage it. So do i just date, but control myself. Or do i wait? PLease help? Cuz this is my first time haveing feelings or someone 6 years younger than me! Its just kills me,im not her age or shes not mine. Honestly i feel like a fucn pedofile for even thinking about being with her, but i LOVE her. Please help all thx.
2006-06-26 14:31:11 · 12 answers · asked by jameswilliamlong 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Six years is a big difference now, but it won't be later on. The fact that her parents are okay with it pretty much gives you the ok to date her - but it should be at your discretion.
If you do date her now you are dating a girl who you know and love, but you need to be aware she is a kid - I don't care how mature she seems, she doesn't have the life experience that you have. She isn't even in high school yet.
If you both love eachother and want to be together, maybe it would be prudent to remain friends and perhaps not date until she's at least 15 or 16, and even then you should probably abstain from sex.
Just talk to her/her parents and let them know how you feel and go from there. Since they are okay with it, it's really all on you. Good luck.
2006-06-26 14:37:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 3⤋
u are not a pedophile. And the years difference is nothin compared 2 some i heard.. when i was like 16 this girl i knew (same age) was goin out with someone twice her again... THAT is disgusting.
Look it's up to you, i mean really think about it. If u even decide 2 go out with her, wud u b comfortable 2 be seen in public ? If so, i say go 4 it. If ur really paranoid about it... write a statement/contract and make her and her parents sign it stating dat they are aware of the relationship and the age and they trust you or something. Age aint nothing but a number and really no one can tell you what to do, not even me cuz nothing is goin 2 change how u feel right this moment. All dat im suggesting, if u decide 2 go with it, just go slow and be careful.
Good luck to ya.
2006-06-26 21:51:19 · answer #2 · answered by melibishou 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, not quite a pedofile, but she is too young to seriously date you and will be really until she is 18. If she drives you crazy now, what makes you think you will be able to control yourself when the pressure is on, so to speak. Why don't you talk with her and tell her how you feel and wait until it is more appropriate. You may find out that it is really only a childhood, feeling a part of the family and wanting more thing...once you start dating women your own age, you may find that it fades. If it doesn't, four years isn't that long, is it?
2006-06-26 21:38:22 · answer #3 · answered by auntb629 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This girl, as you know, is jail bait to you. DON'T date her until she turns 18. It is only 3 years. She may think that she can't wait, and that it is too long to wait, but do it anyway. You are older and know better. You are not a pedophile (they are the ones that rape/molest children). It sounds as if you haven't done anything. If you guys love each other that much, then another 3 years won't make a difference. Don't put yourself in jeopardy by dating her when she is so young. She hasn't had the chance to grow up yet. You have. If she tries to push this, just keep saying that you won't date her until she is 18. Period. She is young and follows her hormones, not logic.
2006-06-26 21:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if her parents encourage it, some states have laws against an adult dating someone under 16 years old. Before doing anything, make sure you check the laws, cause just cause the parents are ok with it, someone else may call the cops and you could still be arrested. It would be the state pressing charges against you.
2006-06-27 07:46:44 · answer #5 · answered by bdaddy20012000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 14, almost 15 she's not a child anymore, yet not an adult. This is not pedophilia.
Of course having full sex with her is illegal for a guy your age so, maybe, refrain from doing it. She's still supposed not to be mature enough to valuably consent for sexual intercourse.
You both like (love?) each other, so I don't see where is the problem in having a relationship, just don't have sex with her.
2006-06-26 22:03:17 · answer #6 · answered by Steaming emotions 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU really need to find out where your priorities are. YOU should not even be looking at her even if she has grown into a beautiful woman. YOU should find a woman your age or be respectful to her and wait till she is 18. Regardless of her age she has no idea how her feelings are yet she is in the begining of puberty! Give her a chance to grow up like you did!
2006-06-26 21:43:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your defiantly not a pedophile.You love a girl who is under age. Your not raping,molesting,or using her in any sexual way against her will,that is what pedophiles do.You have matured and she hasn't yet so I know it makes it hard for you but you need to if you really want her. Good Luck To Both Of You!!!
2006-06-26 22:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by Linda R 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her allow her to enjoy the teen years that she is entitled to.Love is eternal and three years is not a really long time if you are busy preparing to buy a house and get ready for a life of married bliss.
2006-06-26 21:36:29 · answer #9 · answered by racquel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love her but should something happen to piss her off or her parents.... you might be looking at jail time, She's still young she needs time to grow and see what life/love has too offer. Would you rather her pick out out of ignorance from what is really out there or by true love?
2006-06-26 21:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by Im just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋