Is it really bad to hold Babies too much when they are newborn??

Answer 1

yes and no...ahh the delightful fine line. goodness as if us mummies didn't have enough to worry about. babies need to feel secure and soooo loved and of course the bonding is more than important. if your bub is sleeping and content and u have someone around you (besides u) that just keeps picking bub up just because he/she wants to cuddle bub...then politely ask that person to stop. if bub is content and awake, then watch your beautiful bub as he/she looks around and discovers learns and makes those delightful lil noises they make as if chatting to u. u will know when bub needs cuddles...and yes...cuddle when YOU want to. nothing more beautiful than being so close to ur baby, that you can hear and smell baby breath.... ever heard the saying 'never pick up a sleeping baby?' that's a good one....congratulations and all the very best for you and bub.
i forgot to mention that bubs get into a sleep/awake/play/etc routine/pattern and if bub gets picked up while sleeping then it could disrupt bubs sleeping patterns etc. all the best ;-)

Answer 2

You *can't* hold a newborn too much. They *need* to be held most of the time. Remember that before they are born, they are in a *tight* hug 24 hours a day. This is what is *normal* for them when they are very young. Before you know it, the baby won't want to be held much (there is a whole world out there to explore!!). It doesn't last forever, although it may seem like it when your baby is 2 weeks old and won't let you put her/him down for long enough to use the bathroom!)

Answer 3

There is no such thing as holding newborns too much. As a newborn they need to be held. This is the best way to bond with your child. It helps them feel secure and loved. As your child gets older you should not hold them all the time but you still need to hold them and cuddle them.
So, no it is not a bad thing to hold you baby A LOT when they are newborns.

Answer 4

NO - Remember before they were born they were held by you 24 hours a day and taking that away from them to quickly is not good. It is not possible to spoil a newborn and In fact in is a normal biological response for mothers to want to hold and cuddle there babies a lot. It helps the mother and child form a secure bonded realationship . Please dont listen to anyone that tells you it is bad to hold you baby as there is never to much holding and cuddling for a baby.

Answer 5

I can tell you from what I know from watching others hold my kids and seeing the way that they have turned out.... No it is not bad to hold a newborn to much, they are soothed by the beating of the heart since that is what they heard all their unborn lives. I will say that as they get a little older they do become spoiled. my daughter is 4, my son is 1 and I am due in 6 weeks and BOTH of these kids want to be held all the time, so it is good to cut back as they get a little older ( rolling, crawling,walking) that way they feel encouraged to do it alone instead of whining becaue they want to be held.

Answer 6

No, it's not bad to hold babies when they are newborn, you really can't hold them too much. love and bonding are things that babies need in order to thrive. i don't think it is necessary to hold them all the time but don't be afraid to hold them "too much". some people think you will spoil your baby if you hold them every time they cry or something but in reality, an infant's brain does not even have the ability to understand spoiling (if i throw a fit i will get what i want) until they are at least 9 months old.

Answer 7

No. That old wives tale about holding babies too much and spoiling them is just that...an OLD WIVES TALE. Newborns don't have the ability to reason, so it's not as if you hold your baby too much, and she'll think, "Hmm...if daddy puts me down, all I have to do is cry and he'll pick me up again!" If your baby does cry, it's because he's trying to tell you something...hungry, thirsty, lonely, dirty diaper, gassy, etc. I always wanted to smack people who told me not to "spoil" my baby by holding him a lot when he was born. Excuse me, but this baby, for the last 9.5 months, has been somewhere warm, soft, quiet and dark...all of a sudden he's in a cold, bright, LOUD environment, and you're telling me not to hold him and comfort him? **** you! OK, so that's harsh...

I think when it gets to a be a problem is when babies learn to comfort themselves, play with toys and understand that if you set them down, you WILL be coming back. Then they just want to cry because they don't want you to set them down...not because there's anything really wrong with them, or they can't entertain themselves, if this makes sense. Maybe at about 6 - 8 months.

Answer 8

No it isn't. A baby has an innate sense of need to be with his/her mother or other caregiver. It is instinctual and it is necessary for their survival. Close contact with mother means that food, warmth, shelter, and comfort are nearby. A baby has no way of knowing that mom is just across the room when mom puts him down. As far as he is concerned she might as well be in outer space. They just have no way of knowing.

It is actually important for a baby's social and physical development to be carried and held by people as often as possible. Many less industrialized cultures carry and hold their babies in slings or other carriers pretty much all day. The great thing about this is that babies are able to be much more involved in what the mother is doing - they are given the opportunity to observe and experience what is happening around them, and are much more likely to be noticed by others when they are being held or carried.

When a baby is placed in a stroller/carseat, etc they are put into a sterile environment with little to no human interaction or stimulation. Aside from the fact that this is incredibly boring, there is no source of comfort from this and a child this young simply isn't able to comfort themselves. When people say they need to comfort themselves, what is really happening is baby has cried so much she has learned mom isn't going to come and help me when I need her, so I might as well give up. Try and think about how much this really means - I need mom (or whoever) and s/he isn't there for me.

Answer 9

Definitely not. Think of it this way, a baby lives in the womb for 9 months, give or take a little time. Snuggling up with your newborn will remind them of that cozy place where they grew, and make them feel secure. Don't worry about spoiling a baby, you can't do it. You can spoil a child with money or toys or other material possessions, but never with love.

Answer 10

There is no such thing as holding a baby "too much."

Newborns have no concept that they are separate beings from you. All they know is that they have a need, and that need NEEDS to be met, causing them to cry. In Erickson's first crisis stage (trust versus mistrust), ignoring an infants cry causes them delay or failure to trust that their needs will be met.

Even if your infant isn't crying, for the first few months at least it's perfectly acceptable to hold them as much as you're comfortable with. In fact, the stimulation helps brain development. Some parents even give their infants massages to further facilitate this.

Answer 11

If you can't clean the house or make dinner without the baby crying...it's too much. I held my son whenever I could but if I had to get something done...I just laid him in a safe place on the floor or in his crib to visually explore.

My older sister just had her second child (16 years after her first). She let's her 2 1/2 month old rule her life. My niece has to be held at all times, even at night when they sleep. That is out of control.

But if you can lay them down and get things done...you can hold your baby whenever you want. They need to bond.