my man is ignorant and calls me names and i'm starting to hate myself cuz now i have nobody becaause of him so am i crazy?
2006-06-26 14:17:32 · 9 answers · asked by lonelygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
y do u hayt urself if ur man callz u namz!?!?! better yet y tha hell r u even with HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?????????????????
2006-06-26 14:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by Gymnast 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know that your man is "ignorant" why would you believe his put downs of you. It sounds as if he has issues, perhaps feeling inferior or inadequate, so he tear s you down in an attempt to make himself feel bigger and better than you. This my dear is not love...open the door to your heart and show him the way out. Unfortunately, you can't change him but you can change you. Get out of this relationship before it gets worse.
Go to your bathroom or wherever your biggest and best mirror is located, stare into and tell yourself "I love you". If you have difficulty looking in your own eyes and uttering these three little words and believing them , then you have a problem. If you can't love yourself why should anyone else? Practice loving you and the world will love you too. Respect who your are and let this man go about his business.
Remember that God created you and He makes no mistakes. The "nobodies " that you don't have will become somebodies again and life will be good. Love yourself so that other people can love you too. And may I say that you have "nobody" because of you...choices, you did not have to turn your friends away...you chose to, in order to be with "him". Wake up and smell the coffee. Life is supposed to beautiful and wonderful. Start tomorrow on a positive note...Rejoice in the beauty that is you!
2006-06-26 21:48:32 · answer #2 · answered by gmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi again,
No you are not crazy. The reason you hate yourself is because you allowed this man to put you down and control you and you lost your self confidence. I hope you realize you deserve to be treated with love and respect not abused. Also you should not be stopped from seeing your own kids. I hope you leave this man and go to where your girls are and find a better life. Don't stay and think you can't leave because he has isolated you and you have nobody. He may tell you that you can't survive without him but be strong you can.
2006-06-26 23:21:53 · answer #3 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe I was in this same situation until just two weeks ago, when I kicked my boyfriend to the curb. I fought to keep my sanity and not let his words affect me, and I stayed very strong because I realized how wrong he was. But this abuse on a constant basis will wear you down and wear you out, so take what strength and self-esteem you still have and use it to get out of this situation NOW. He has isolated you and is verbally abusive and has made you feel terrible about yourself...the classic signs of an abuser. This is NOT love--love doesn't hurt, it makes you feel happy, safe and protected. The person who loves you is there for you and on your side, working to build you up, not tear you down. You don't have "nobody"...that is just an illusion. It will take time to get over the damage that has been done to you, but if you get out of this relationship and take steps in a positive direction, such as focusing on improving every aspect of your life, you will heal. And you will be SO GLAD you cut this loser loose. So, starting right now, please make a plan to get out of this situation and act on it when as soon as the time is right. I wish you the best.
2006-06-26 21:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by sunny1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear what you are saying. It's too bad when a woman lets a man dictate how she feels about herself. It usually means he has issues and complexes. It makes him feel big and clever when he knows that he has hurt your feelings. This is a sado-masachistic relationship and unless you want to be in a master/slave couple, you are best leaving and finding someone equal to you.
2006-06-26 21:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because society tells us that it's politically incorrect to be single. So, people stay with their partners out of fear of ridicule or not being accepted by future mates. At any rate, you should dump this guy immediately.
2006-06-26 21:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by tiger_skratch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because when we hear stuff about ourselves we tend to criticize ourselves more than everyone else does....women are there own worst critics...and men are next in line...if a guy tells us we're fat or ugly we're gonna listen!!!
2006-06-26 21:29:27 · answer #7 · answered by babygurl_0754 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur not crazy, but ur just stuck in a rut. u dont need anyone that makes u feel that way. leave him, and get ur confidence back.
2006-06-26 21:25:51 · answer #8 · answered by luvly_lady3426 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are the first steps to an abusive relation-ship.
Run,don't walk,don't talk,Run,Run,Run.
2006-06-26 21:25:28 · answer #9 · answered by racquel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋