I have risen above a lot of negative crap in my life, to become a creative, giving, super diverse and very loving person...thing is I'm still fearful in relationships ... (bad father issues: real one killed himself, step-dad was abusive) I never turned to drugs or alchohol but became a recognised athlete and performer instead.The only place I can work thru this with authenticity is IN a relationship tho...and I unfortunately come with some baggage, Do I have to be perfectly healed before it's realistic to accept another love into my life?
2006-06-26 13:40:09 · 5 answers · asked by paradox69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My wife and I have been married for 14 years now. She came out of a very abusive (both physically and mentally) relationship and had 3 kids when we met. You don't have to be completely "healed", in all honesty you will never be completely healed. You need to find someone that has patience. For us, we truly enjoy each others company and sex is not the basis of our relationship. She still has some moments of self doubt in certain situations but over time she has overcome and learned to deal with all the c**p that he did to her. She is a very successful business woman now, a VP with a national communication company, and we have had 2 other children together. Take the time to get to know the person, don't hide things from them. We spent many long nights just letting her talk and me listen so she could work through things. Dated for 2 years and then married. Good luck.
2006-06-26 13:55:19 · answer #1 · answered by happyathome 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure, we all carry some baggage with us from past relationships. But, being perfectly healed??? None of us is perfect to begin with. Take care.
2006-06-26 13:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you are a gifted writer... you have a pool of awesome words to write... i admire your writing, i envy you, actually!^^
to answer you question, I think YES!
in your case, so that you can focus totally to that new love.
some people use new love or relationship to heal the old ones, but i think it wont work on you cause you've been through a lot already...
goodluck!
2006-06-26 14:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by Mhazeâ?¢ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one is ever perfect or perfectly healed.
the only thing that limits your ability to love another is how far you've developed in your ability to love yourself.
you cannot love someone more than you love yourself!
if you cannot love yourself to the fullest, you cannot reach that with another.
2006-06-26 21:25:25 · answer #4 · answered by Silvaworks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well love hurts sometimes it dosent mean that you should stop trying dont we all get up when we fall,Same goes with love
2006-06-26 13:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋