I have tried and tried to talk to him about this. (this has been going on for about 5 years). He won't tell me the reason. I ask him if he is tired of me or doesn't find me attractive, and he says that isn't it. I think he maybe seeing someone else, but i don't know when he would find the time. Whenever i call his office he is there. He never goes out at night. I am so upset. I am wondering if other men find me attractive, why doesn't he?
2006-06-26 13:21:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow, i know what you mean. it's been the same for my husband and i for about 2 years and we are both in our mid- 20's!! it is soooo hard to believe that it has nothing to do with you, no matter how much he says it. from my experience if talking doesn't work, try toys or anything exciting...i wish i could say this is the sure answer,but it wasn't for me..the next step would be to get some kind of couseling, i believe it could do a world of good, although i haven't tried it yet (lack of $$) it may be what you need. and you may find that it has nothing to do with anything physical and there may be some underlying problems in your relationship that's affecting his sex drive. i wouldn't jump to any conclusions about cheating yet, just open up to him and maybe he'll do the same. but don't make the issue about you, show him concern and maybe something will come around....good luck!!!
2006-06-26 13:58:22 · answer #1 · answered by em 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, I completely understand where you are coming from. I am having the same problem, so you should email me. Mine's been going on for about five months. I talked with mine about it and he sad he was just too sad and didn't want to do anything. He said if he didn't have responsibilities he would just lay around the house all the time because he is so sad. I still feel like it's something more, but I can't drag it out of him. We still do have sex, but it's not often, maybe two or three times a month and it seems like a chore. It's not enough for me and I worry all the time that it's something I've done. Sometimes I wonder if it's just that it's boring now, no surprises, not for lack of trying of course. I know how you feel, so email me and we can complain to each other and try to find some answers.
2006-06-26 13:33:38 · answer #2 · answered by Teacher M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a real trouble honey if you too aint knocking boots that is bad....... and you say there is no evidence of him cheating?? well maybe getting to visit a doctor he might be impontet and is to ashame to tell you.. you have to get him to talk about it with you go to a sex therapist maybe?? if he refuse then i would suggest for your to part and find someone who will rock your world cause girl you need this part of life?? until you find an answer or a solution to your problem i suggest to go to a adult store and find you a nice little vibrator let your husband know you have it to see if that wakes him up. good luck.
2006-06-26 13:43:41 · answer #3 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men have a arrection problem they do not know what to do or how to talk about because it is hard to talk about. It's hard to disscuse with the wife or the Dr. They refuse to have sex that way they don't have to deal with it .. Some medications can cause this to happen.
2006-06-26 13:31:37 · answer #4 · answered by welder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he has impotence problem meaning he can't get hard !Just try talking with him about it and go to the Doctors with him they have prescriptions that can help him out! Just show him that you care and be patient don't embarrass him about it things like this happens sometimes! Best wishes!
2006-06-26 13:30:01 · answer #5 · answered by cocoa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-06-26 14:56:23 · answer #6 · answered by 66hamerheadPD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there could be an underlying medical problem. First he should discuss this with his doctor. If not medical, perhaps he is having psychological problems, maybe he is depressed, or feeling overburdened with responsibilities. Definitely seek medical help.
2006-06-26 13:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by tweetymay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would check into who works closely with him @ the office and if you have no suspisions there....... then I would speak with him about Viagra.
That's really a very sad situation to have to live through.
My prayers are with you.
2006-06-26 13:32:17 · answer #8 · answered by Lisa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem is HIM.
Maybe he works so hard he doesnt have sexual thoughts on his mind. Maybe its just becuase he CANT get it up?
Try just jumpinghis bones before bed MAKE him remember how it use to be :)
Hope i helped.
2006-06-26 13:27:39 · answer #9 · answered by jameswilliamlong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be a number of reasons dudes get turned off but I will not post them here
2006-06-26 13:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by Hea Dude ! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋