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i was also wondering if since she is pregnant if she gets more hormonal and she is just using me as a scapegoat of her anger

2006-06-26 13:09:01 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting Adolescent

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Wow dude, it looks like your world has completely turned in on itself over the last 24 hours.

If she's definitely pregnant, and it looks from your other questions that that's likely, then you'd better do some fast growing up. That's not meant to sound mean, it means you've got to face your responsibilities as a father, and say goodbye to the different life you thought you were going to have last week. That's not a problem - being a father is great, and being in a family is wonderful. But you can't regret what's passed; and in any case, there's a long future ahead of you.

She may be angry owing to her hormones, as pregnancy affects women in different ways. She may have morning sickness and generally feel like cräp. Part of her will take this out on you. You have to take it. You aren't going through what she is, and it's your job to be sympathetic and mature, not to retaliate and feel sorry for yourself.

Oh, and for the record, a scapegoat is someone or something who has blame dumped on them even though it's not their fault. That doesn't apply to you - you are partly responsible for your girlfriend's situation. Face up to details like that and you could make a good father for the little boy or girl who's coming into this world next year. It can be the best thing ever - but don't expect it to be easy. Good luck.

2006-06-26 13:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Liberal 7 · 2 1

i have news for you being a parent is VERY HARD WORK no matter what age you are and even harder if you are young. She could be hormonal but don't look for the fights to stop after the baby gets here because things will only become real. You guys don't get to be kids anymore you get to raise a kid and that's more than getting matching hats and having birthday parties. you get to worry about fevers and rashes and colic and shots and lack of sleep and BM and that's just the first year. when your friends are planning there graduation parties you and your GF will be worried if Jr is walking soon enough and talking soon enough. your life's are both about to change and you two need to be prepared for lots of arguing and fights. Kids are the most wonderful and stressful thing s that can happen to you. Keep your parents close to you right now because you will both need there love and support. And if you are waiting for her to calm down so things can be normal keep waiting because now that you are going to be a dad things will never be normal again. Good luck to you both

2006-06-27 12:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Oh boy! I am so glad you love the Mommy. I hope you are prepared to be parents - it isn't all fun and games. And if you think she is hormonal now, just wait until you both have had no sleep and the adorable baby won't stop crying and it is the middle of the night and you are hungry and the baby is wet and poopy and you forgot to buy diapers. And that's just one night. It goes on and on and on and on.

If she is angry with you because she became pregnant, remind her that she was there, too.

And if you decide to make an adoption plan for this baby, don't be afraid. You will make everyone very happy.

2006-06-26 20:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by Z Town Mom 3 · 0 0

Well yeah.....
She's PG and you got her that way so she is going to take it out on you. To make you feel better when she has the baby be in the room with her and see what she goes thur. Then after you see that you will get over all the crap she's put you thur these 9 months. She's scared and ill and probably not to happy right now.

Yes your relationship is normal. People fuss all throughout their marriage or relationships. It's very normal.
Yaw should just go ahead and get married before the baby is born. So you started a family early?? Well be happy and start young. 40 years from now you can say we got married at 16!
Just what I would do...
Good Luck and try to remember what she is feeling cause being PG to me SUCKED badly and I treated my hubby like crap the whole time. You can get her back later. lol
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2006-06-26 20:50:53 · answer #4 · answered by ▒Яenée▒ 7 · 0 0

She's having hormonal swings, which is perfectly normal. On top of that, her body sincerely isn't ready for this yet. She's young, scared, and probably dealing with a lot of things she's not prepared to deal with right now.

You might be a focal point for her anger, even with the hormonal difficulties. In her mind, you helped put her in this frightening position. Remind her you care and that you're there for her. It'll be a difficult 9 months and beyond. But if you're strong and patient, you'll get through it.

2006-06-26 23:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by lady_laran 3 · 0 0

it takes 2 to argue. REMEMBER: You are the man, the father to be, the rock of your family. If she comes on like she wants to fight, just dont.. It blows women away to find you wont fight, but the love you get after the fact is worth being cool. prayer helps a lot too..

2006-06-27 05:51:36 · answer #6 · answered by mr.phattphatt 5 · 0 0

very young to be parents, i wish you all of the luck and all of God's blessings. it is normal to argue a lot at any age. relationships are hard enough on their own. the children just add to it. she is probably very hormonal, scared, stressed. having a baby is so hard. help her, love her, she is the boss. be supportive. be there.

2006-06-26 20:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by maderlu 4 · 0 0

yeah she is probally takin her anger out on you cuz she knows that u love her and she knows that u will forgive her so she takes it out on you.. but i think yeah arguments are normal for you guys well for any teens.. dont worry everythign will be fine just stay with her she needs u the most.......

2006-06-26 21:40:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sammi 2 · 0 0

when a woman is pregnant her hormones do get a lil crazy and sometimes to crazy..sometimes arguments are healthy.

2006-06-26 20:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by deathmetalgirl6 2 · 0 0

No, but it depends on the how strong of words are used. Quarrels really are bad for the heart.

2006-06-26 20:38:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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