he becomes extermely defensive and tries to turn the tables. he also has shifty eyes like hes checking to see if he's completly covered all his tracks and get very nervous. I usually find long hair on blakets clothing and shoe prints on my clothing. and some kinds of oils on the dash boards of our vehiles. i am becoming frustrated and desprate to find out. i dont want to become too obvious and not be able to catch him red handed by becoming i rate so i act as if i don't notice anything so he does not start accusing me again or get on the verg of kickling my you know what for questioning him.
2006-06-26 12:42:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh god, doesn't sound good. My soon to be ex was VERY defensive when I asked him questions. And I later found out my glut feelings were right, which he still denies. Here's a tip, check cell phone bills if you can. If you see a lot of calls to a number you don't know call it (hide your caller id) and see who answers. I did that, and guess what, yup, some other woman. Even better try to call at an odd time, early in the am, or late in the pm. that way you might get voicemail and there's a chance you could learn a name. I did that, asked him about it, and he was stumbling for an answer. Don't accept she's just a friend GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-26 13:26:28 · answer #1 · answered by honeybaby729 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something to try to catch him in the act. Set up a camera or if you don't have one rig things so that you can notice a change. Follow him or sneak back home when you are not supposed to be there. There are lots of things that you can do to find out for sure. It seems like you're already pretty convinced though. If you feel that strongly maybe you don't need evidence. Has anyone else said or noticed anything? (beware of "misery loves company" people though).
If you do find out for sure plan for you next move because you don't want to act to rashly and cause more problems for yourself. Be smart about it and get advice from friends/family first. Good luck!
2006-06-26 19:52:45 · answer #2 · answered by miss_trita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. I just had a gut feeling. Mine turned out to be right. He was seeing a 20-year old girl (he's 33) and sneaking around. He made excuses to work out at odd hours, stay late at the office, see male friends without me, etc. When I had obligations, he took advantage of that time as well. I started looking through his briefcase "innocently" and found 2 photos of her. Once I picked my heart and ego off the floor, I calmly asked him who she was. Luckily he was honest. He seemed to think we could work things out. He was wrong. Find out before you accuse, but if you suspect, you're probably right. If not, there's obviously some problems that the two of you need to work on. Get help bc I don't want you to go through what I did! Good luck!
2006-06-26 19:49:22 · answer #3 · answered by justme 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from experience with a cheating husband. Signs of cheating u have some shifty eyes turning it around on u not coming home the usual time talking down to u when u walk into the room he's on the phone he quickly gets off. or walks out of the room when getting on the phone. ALWAYS go by your GUT!!!!You feel its happening. i'd put $$$ on it. Leave behind him get to his cell phone while hes in the shower.
2006-06-26 19:52:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to get down to the bottom of this problem, Do some investigating follow him, ask a friend to drive you and see where he goes. Sounds crazy but it might help you to find out. It does sound wierd that he is always defensive! That caould be nothing but it could be his way of hiding the truth! You never know.
2006-06-26 19:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by Cruegirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to kick his you know what........girl all the signs are there,he is cheating so your move is next.. if you feel that this thing is on like that the best thing for you to do is to try and catch him,dont forget all the nasty diseases that are happening out there,.if he get to the point of kicking your *** for questioning him then i can assume he is abusive,get out of there dont even found out you have evidence that tells you he is cheating and your gutt fellings that is almost one hundred percent effective a womans always knows,leave him is my advice.get out and start fresh is your life you are not happy felling like this everyday dont waste your time like this,get rid of him now it will hurt less later i promise you,you will live.good luck.
2006-06-26 20:00:20 · answer #6 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HMMMMMMM our gut feelings are usually right! I say get one of the little nanny cams and put it in your vehicle. They make them soooo tiny he will never even know its there! Im like you- I would HAVE to know. Good luck to u and I hope its not true. My heart is with you
2006-06-26 19:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hide a tape recorder under the seat of your vehicle. You'll catch him AND have lasting proof.
2006-06-26 19:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by El 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO! Wow this guy is good, gets his cake and eats it too! girl stupid is sooooooooo not attractive on women, and it really does make strong women look bad, sorry love but if you are going to be this naive in your relationships, you are always going to be treated this way. Time to Wake up !
2006-06-26 20:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by maxine553 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
figure out a way to find out if he is cheating or not like a vidoe camera or a tape recorder
2006-06-26 19:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by sk8terchick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋