A question for the larger ladies out there....?

Question

how do you keep your self confidence up when you move to a new place and find that most of the people around you are smaller in both size and stature....I am a size 22 and most of the women here are between 4 to 10.....how can you keep that little nagging negative voice from bothering you and getting you down?

Any suggestions....nice ones, please....ty

you girls and guy..kick ***...thanks sooo much!!

Answer 1

i try to keep a positive outlook everyday. i know what you mean. my size is up there as well. i know what your going through. im a size 18-20. i used to be a size 22. i trying to work on though.

Answer 2

Do not compare yourself to other people. Live a good life, be a good person, and hold your head up high. Your self worth is not defined by what fashion magazines define as beauty, you are beautiful because of who you are not what you look like or what the scale says... and those who truly matter will appreciate that fact.

If you have problems with your weight, work to lose it. You may never be a size 4-10..but keep in mind that one of the most beautiful women in the world was a size 14 - Marilyn Monroe...

good luck to you... I hope you find your happiness within before searching for it on the outside.

Answer 3

I gained a LOT of weight during 2 pregnancies and I had 2 cesarians and just had another surgery. So my stomach is all swelled up. I have skinny friends and sometimes I do feel out of place, but my husband thinks that I am beautiful and my children think that I am the best ever!!!!.... so.... I guess all is well. I don't have to be a size 4 or 10! to be happy. So just focus on those things about yourself that you really like and just be as pleasant a person as possible. You will find that if you PRETEND to be happy or have high self confidence, you really will!! Trust me!

Answer 4

Move to Maine. :-)

I'm a size 12 (14 on my period, I fluctuate up to a 16 sometimes in the winter.. but usually a 12) and most of the women around here are like 20w-28w.

No joke.

But I get where you are coming from. I used to work in an office with a size 4 and a size 6 and I was a 14-16. I lost some weight (down to a 10 for awhile, back up to a 12) The 4 got canned and the 6 is up to an 8. Now I work with another 12. :-)

Know what helps?--- stretchy clothes. In stretchy clothes you forget your size and just live. :-)

I don't know what it is about Maine, but most of us up here are heavy. Know what they say about Maine women? They give your warmth in the wintah and shade in the summah. Ayuh. :-)


Now, if you want a tip on losing weight if you so desire--- fiber!!! Eat a ton of fiber. Get that tastless stuff if you have to. That and if you drink cows milk change to soy. Try to get off all dairy, switch to all soy; and eat as much tofu in place of meat as you can stand. It works for me!

Good luck. Remember that beautiful women come in all shapes and sizes and that nobody is ever going to love you like yourself. (not to be cliche, but it's true!) Everyone else can screw off if they don't like you! Right? :-)

Answer 5

I wouldn't worry about it so much b/c those people don't pay your bill or control the air you breathe. I use to bother me when I went to FL. But once I realized that I can't rely on other people for my own happiness it got better. Only you can control how much power others have over you. Take your self on a date I bet it will be the best one you will ever have. You have to treat yourself like a Queen before someone else does. Put real cloths on even on your day off, wear a little lipstick just for you . It always starts with your self sweetie.

Answer 6

I am a former size 22 my self and it is hard, but maybe you could look at the positive side when your down,on your self this may be the motivation you need to get healthy. Nothing tastes as good as thin feels... so keep up positive thoughts there is a beautiful trimmer you in there waiting to get out....

Answer 7

I live in Ohio, and EVERY woman I've talked to recently has gained 20-30 lbs over the winter. If you're moving to a warmer climate, ask people what they do, or where the nearest (choose your exercise) park is.

Complimenting someone always works well to start conversations. Something like, "Wow, I couldn't help but notice how pretty your eyes are!", or "Where did you find your purse? I really like that!", and then after they tell you something, either "Thank you, I bought it at ____", you can say you're new to the area and are looking for places to bike, walk, jog, skate, a new gym..whatever. People will tell you anything if you let them talk about themselves.

Answer 8

If you were comfortable with your weight, you probably would not be worried about this. If you think you are up for it, this may be a good incentive to try to lose a little weight both for your health and your appearance. But it has to be because you would like to do something to change your life, not because you think your neighbors will be friendly if you are thinner. They may not be the kinds of friends you want to have if that is really how they are. Good Luck !
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Answer 9

Every time you walk pass a mirror smile and congratulate yourself on being a FABULOUS woman. When ever you hear that voice in your head tell yourself that confidence didn't grow on a tree for you you had to cultivate it in your soul and in your soul is where you will keep it. Then if one day you are really feeling less than the grand dame that you are picture yourself chasing one of those skinny ............ with a steak and potatoes with a side order of sour cream screaming " eat this you skinny ..........."! Well it will make ya laugh anyway!

Answer 10

By remembering that there is alot more to you than your size. Inner beauty overshadows what's on the outside. If you know you are beautiful on the inside, it will shine for all to see on the outside. Just be yourself. Some will accept you & some won't. Just concentrate on the ones who do accept you...they will be the ones worth being friends with.