True or False..open to anyone but i want Mom and Dads answer's....?

Question

Are we rasing a Generation of Indulged Kids?...

Answer 1

I am a mom of two boys, and I hate to say it but ....... True. But on the other hand I think generations have been leaning that way since the late 50's. Parents want to "give" their children the best, and often times they believe that is done with money and little discipline. Unfortunately our good intentions has created a generation that believes that everything should be given to them and not earned.

Answer 2

yes, and it's our own dang fault. We don't want our children to "feel bad" so we put them in time-out. We don't spank them anymore. Spanking, provided it isn't overused, is a tool to get the child's attention. It isn't necessarily the evil thing that so many therapists claim it is.

Often mistaken for true abuse, the lack of corporal punishment has allowed our children to become more manipulative, because we have to find alternative ways to discipline them, like taking their privileges away etc. But how long does that last? We, as parents, start to feel guilty "because they already have enough pressures on them from school, sports, etc. , and why should we deny them one little thing that makes them happy?"

It's summer time and I have just started my own son on a workout regimen in the mornings. If the child feels better about him or herself physically, they are going to have more self esteem. Lead the emotional self with the physical self. Not from the standpoint of HOW they look, but from the point of WHAT they overcame and accomplished.

We have spanked our son even within the last couple of years. Yes, he is getting too old for it now. But it served its purpose when he forgot that he was the child and we are the parents.

Yes, he even lost his XBox privileges. Not just for a couple of days though. He didn't have it for the better part of 6 months. Now that it is summer, he has it back. But we made our point with that one too.

Being a kid (toddler, schoolkid, preteen, or teenager) means that they have to do their chores, such as they might be, and are constantly earning the right to those privileges they want. They slack off, they lose. We as parents shouldn't feel guilty for laying down the law. That's our JOB!

I do agree with the fact that kids growing up today are under incredible pressures, with influences we couldn't have even imagined when we were growing up. But by the same token, we as parents have pressures (and bills) that OUR parents couldn't have even imagined when they were raising us.

Raising our kids is our responsibility. If we don't take care of business, ultimately they will be the ones who suffer most. If we indulge their temper tantrums regularly, they will be the ones to grow up with a lack of self-discipline. The tempermental toddler of today can become the juvenile delinquent of tomorrow. Just because we don't want to see it doesn't mean it isn't there.

It's our job, our responsibility, and our fault if things are going to hell in a handcart. It's up to us to break the cycle. We're in this together.

Peace.
VT

Answer 3

True. Its become our way to spare the rod and spoil the child. Especially with all the things that society says we can't do to children to discipline them. Its our own fault and in the end our children are suffering.

Answer 4

yes,and its hard to keep them grounded but that's the difference between raising them or letting them raise themselves. usually both parents work so you deal with guilt of not spending as much time. but there have to be clear boundaries and punishment if those are crossed. my oldest son has a cell phone and has had one for the last three years but for me it gave me peace of mind to be able tohave contact with him at all times. my family thought that was too indulgent. clothing is another issue i dress him well because kids can be cruel,i have friends who don't spend as much on clothing for the kids but spend a fortune on cigarettes.talk to your kids and find out where their heads are at and stay in prayer they will turn out just fine

Answer 5

In general, I would say True. I didn't let my boys have everything they wanted, but i know of many parents who do. Kids today want instant gratification, they want it, and they want it now. And so, they haven't learned the value of working and planning for what they want.

Answer 6

True. That is why they have already been nicknamed Generation Me

Answer 7

i don't want to start a frenzy but has anyone ever heard of the word " NO" my kids hear it alot......no cell phone.... if you want a car you get a job and pay for it yourself.....and so on. that is how i was raised and i believe that if you want to raise a child that can fend for themselves when they get out on their own then you have to start at that early age and push there on. if you hand them everything through life they will have that gimme gene and then expect it forever till you die and i don't know about you but i can't wait till my empy nest comes. we have 3 teen age boys and a 11 year old daughter. only one does not live with us and he lives with his mother. we can not control him there but at our house things are different. no is heard alot.......when it comes to extragent things....those are left for christmas and maybe a birthday.....

Answer 8

The ones who drive new cars while talking on their own cell phones on the way to buy status label clothing.

You reckon?

Answer 9

As a mom and a schoolteacher.......Yes we are raising a generation of overindulged children.

Answer 10

True, but I don't think we really mean too.