i m 38 years i m married i love my family i love my husbend but some months ago i met a guy and i started geting attacted to him and then i fall in love with him i know i m wrong but my heart doesnt listen i always decide i wont contet him but i do he use to talk with me but now he know i m in love with him 1 m 38 and the guy is 25 he want to have sex with me but he dont want me he nomore talk with me and never call me
2006-06-26 12:27:33 · 16 answers · asked by kareena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just because you're married doesn't mean you're dead. You will always find at least one or two people attractive while married to your partner. The challenge is to stay faithful to your partner as you made a promise to them. No one said marriage was easy, honey. You're figuring out why. This is a clue and a lesson as to whether you were right to stay married and true to your partner. In this case, will the lust win out (don't confuse your heart with lust, mistake number one) or will your commitment to your partner win out? Only you can decide that.
2006-06-26 12:32:25 · answer #1 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First take a deep breath . Then think about your family first. The guy is twenty five years old. All he thinks about is sex, and when he can meet you for it. The guy is nothing but a loser. If you keep fooling with that guy, then you are going to lose everything you have the most.
It be different if there was trouble in your marriage, without the guy ever be brought into it. But you need to listen to your head this time. Sometimes the heart can get us in trouble, and in between a rock and a hard place.
The most importance thing is your kids. Don't put no man, any man over your children. Just sit down, and think how they are going to react to it. Thats if you go ahead thru with it. Love hurts, but this time it has a reason for it.
2006-06-27 00:06:02 · answer #2 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its easy to feel this way when anyone has been in a relationship for a while and when you have a child. Life becomes predictable and sometimes boring. So when something or someone new and exciting comes along of course we want it. Temptation seems to hard to resist when what we know is so wrong looks so good. If you give into what you truly know as wrong, it will become clear adventually that it dident satisfy you, you will be at a loss(family) and see you are once again unsatisfied. There is only one thing that would be the wisest to do. That would be get that guy out of your head and stay away from him, learn to love your family in more ways, by loving them unselfishly. And find that only God , the father of heaven and earth can fully satisfy us. Because there is more to life.
2006-06-26 19:53:33 · answer #3 · answered by M M G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best defense against your feelings is to think of your husband and your family whenever you start pining for this "boy". What you feel is only lust, a passion for the moment. Think about what the next forty years of your life will be like if you cave in for one brief moment of selfish pleasure.
This too shall pass.
2006-06-26 22:27:46 · answer #4 · answered by Andrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do not want to break up your marraige, stay away from this guy.
Sure why not have sex with you ... you are married so safe arena for sex only from you with no hassles
avoid this guy and the temptation if you want to stay married
Is sex worth losing your marraige over?
2006-06-26 19:31:07 · answer #5 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think you might be experiencing a mid-life crisis. Don't ruin your family over it! Give yourself a makeover or do something to make yourself feel good about who you are as a woman. You shouldn't need attention from other men to make you feel special.
2006-06-26 19:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.King 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a Pit that you may never climb out of,stay in what you have,and if the other guy dose understands,he'll stop with the overly sexual stuff.
2006-06-26 19:33:35 · answer #7 · answered by Crazy Munchie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to use you for sexual gratification. As long as you know this go for it. But there is no chance for anything long term with him....and you will damage your family tremendously along the way. The choice is yours.
2006-06-26 19:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey think abt ur family.the guy will just use u and throw u like a tissue but at the same time u will lose everythin..so wake up and kick his ***!!!
2006-06-26 19:31:35 · answer #9 · answered by azz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he only wanted to have sex with you so stay away from him and remember the good things about your husband and love him .
2006-06-26 19:31:16 · answer #10 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋