I just found out I was pregnant, we were trying and now all of a sudden since I found out I am scared to death. I have been married for 12 yrs and I am 33. We have always traveled a-lot. Is it normal to be scared to death, I think it is going to change my carefree life forever????
2006-06-26 12:25:01 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It's completely normal to fear a major life change. Don't feel guilty over it - it doesn't make you a bad mom-to-be, just realistic. Congratulations and good luck to you!!
2006-06-26 12:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal to be scared. You are human, after all. Pregnancy can be a scary thing, but the joys and rewards outweigh it by a ton!! You may not be able to be 100% as carefree as you once were for a few years, but it isn't the end of the world. You and your new family can still travel; think of all the different learning experiences your child will get to see and experience! I moved a lot when I was a kid (still do, in fact) and it helped me become the person I am today. The one regret I have is that, though we moved a lot, we never traveled. My entire childhood, we only went on one, maybe two vacations, and that was it!
Please, Don't be scared that your 'life is over' or you 'cannot have fun any more' because you are now expecting. It seems like you have already lived a pretty amazing life with traveling a lot. Think of all the places you've been that you would like to take your child when they get older. Think of the stories you can tell and experience you will get to pass on.
2006-06-26 19:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by marquise_hari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is completely normal to feel the way you do. I felt exactly the same way. I was 20 when I found out I was pregnant for the first time.
You have just experience a very life-changing situation, but do not despair. It will all be great. You will have up-and-down emotions, but you will get used to the fact that a great little person is coming into your life and it will change your whole perspective on things. It gets even better when you see the ultrasound with the heart beating, the first little twinges of movement, then the bigger signs of movement around in your belly. It is awesome.
Things might change, but that doesn't necessarily mean that it is all bad; it is all good. After the baby is born you won't even think about it, you'll just do it like it was always that way. I hope I helped. Congratulations and the best of luck to you and your husband!!
2006-06-26 19:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by bckeever 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes hon..it is normal to feel that way at any age particularly when it is your first baby. You worry that you won't be able to do it as confidently as your parents appeared to, yet they had to start somewhere too. You worry that it will change your life irrevocably..no more cafes, nights out etc..but then you find a way to incorporate the baby into your activities.
You worry you don't know enough about babies..but that is what the whole 40wk deal is about. It gives you time to read as much as you can to be as prepared as you can be. Then the baby appears and you are so damned in love that you forget your fears and use trial and error until suddenly the child is ready for school and you think: waaaah..where did the time go? Pretty soon you will be giving advice to other new mums! It is the circle of life. Congratulations, you will be the best mum your baby can have and if that means not being as carefree as you are right now, you will be fine with that too because your focus will change entirely once you see that gorgeous little face.
2006-06-26 19:36:05 · answer #4 · answered by anything_my_child 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god - i cant believe i just read your question. I am 31 and have been married for 8 years and i just found out i am too. I am overcome with fear (even though i had been on fertility drugs in the past... this happened naturally and i was not expecting it at all). My biggest fear is that i will become a boring old mother and lose my identity and likewise the freedom i have enjoyed for so long.
I am going to Greek Islands in a week and a half and i did not expect to be going there pregnant by any means.
I have only known for 5 days so i am sure i will get used to the idea - perhaps no matter when this was to happen in my life i would feel the same but i totally understand where you are coming from. I am happy but so overcome with fear and trepidation that it is scaring me.
Best of luck to you - i hope everyting goes well.
By the way i am 5 weeks on sunday.
2006-06-28 23:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Boo Boo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well its definately gonna change your life forever but I'm sure it will be for the good. Yes if you ask anyone you know they will tell you at first all they wanted to do was get pregnant but when it really happens reality sets in...you are goning to be responsible for this person basically forever....thats a lot to take in when it was just you and your husband 5 mins before the line turned blue! You will not be carefree ever again...but yes you will be able to vacation and do fun things...fun FAMILY things for right now....you can always take an adult vacation as well but yes you will now have to schedule things more than you did before. Don't worry it will be 100% worth it! Good Luck and Congrats!
2006-06-26 19:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by I wanna stay on maternity leave! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 25 years old with 3 children a career and I believe that bringing life is a beautiful thing. I know what you're thinking "she's 25 already has three children" I felt the carefree life is overrated sometimes it feels good to have some cares and someone to care for.
2006-06-26 19:40:02 · answer #7 · answered by brownie1711 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your life will change, but definitely for the better! whatever happiness travel brought you, a baby will bring you so much more! A baby won't change your life FOREVER! Just for the next 18 years :O) congratulations.... everyday you will become more and more prepared for the birth of your baby, and there will be nothing scared about it!
2006-06-26 19:32:28 · answer #8 · answered by Braidynsmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is totally normal. You get really scared, because it is shocking. You will be happy, congratulations! Thank God God gives us 9 months to get it all together. YOu will experiance love like you have never known when you have your baby. Fear is a natural reaction, it is okay. In a few minutes you will be excited, especially when your husband finds out. Take care. Your emotions will change dramatically, one minute you will be scared, the next happy, the next crying. It is normal. HORMONES!!!!!!!!!
2006-06-26 19:29:44 · answer #9 · answered by Tara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal is an understatememt. Everything will be ok, it will just take some time. Its a huge deal to bring new life into this world with somebody you care for and love so much
2006-06-26 19:29:44 · answer #10 · answered by Brian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋