Will you stay married to a man who says "It's my way or no way". So you better change to suit me.

Question

is it worth it staying married to man who wants his way all the time, and doesn't appreciate anything you do but will rather criticize your very best efforts. A man who will force you to submit against your wishes, and is always accusing you of doing something wrong. calls you useless, a failure, and tells you all women are better than you. Worse case scenario? You have children with him. Help!

Answer 1

If I was you I would tell him that you want to get into marriage counseling. You shouldn't be in a relationship where you or your opinion don't matter - especially if there is verbal abuse going on.

Answer 2

Has he always been like that, or did he change? Did you marry him and have his children, hoping that in time, he might become a loving husband? Assert yourself, tell him you want relationship counselling in order to keep the family together. If he refuses, start planning for a life away from him.
Forcing you to submit (to sex) against your wishes is rape, no one should put up with that.

Answer 3

I would pack my bags and get the hell out of there. It is only going to get worse. Women are hard enough on themselves...they don't need a man making them feel worse. If he wants it his way...then he better get off his sorry *** and do it himself. I was not put on this earth to be a slave to a ungreatful, nogood, sorry piece of "you know what".

Do you want your kids to end up treating thier future spouces that way. Not only are the kids going to have a warped view of marriage but they will have a low self esteem due to the fact that thier father most likely treats them the same way he treats you. I would never put my kids through that. "Run Run As fast as you can....He can't catch you.... cause he really isn't a man." :)

Answer 4

That sounds like abuse to me. No one (and certainly no man) would ever treat me like that and get away with it for more than a minute! You have to believe you're better than that and that you deserve to be treated with love and respect.

As far as the children, do you realize that staying in this situation is teaching them that this is the way men are supposed to treat women? Would you want your son to someday treat his wife this way? Would you want your daughter to find a man who "loved" her just like daddy loved mommy? Just picture your children, all grown up, in this same situation. If you can't leave for yourself, you have to leave for them.

God bless you, and good luck!

Answer 5

I'd say No get out now while you still can and have some respect left for yourself. Take the kids. There's lots of ways for a single mom to handle this situation. Get a Lawyer and get out.

Answer 6

He's a loser and only puts you down so he can feel good. It's not good for kids to see Daddy or Mommy say mean and negative things to each other they'll repeat the pattern. that's scary !!! and you don't deserve it!! Pick yourself up. be the strong person you are !surprise his *** and tell him No for a change!! That for better or for worse vow is pretty crazy huh!

Answer 7

Darlin', what is wrong with you? Where is your love for yourself? Go get yourself some counseling and figure out why you are allowing someone to treat you this way.

You need to leave this man and get yourself back in shape - for the sake of your children.

Answer 8

helllllls nooooo i hope that you are sereously thinking about taking control of your life and send this trash to the garbage where he belongs.what a jerk!!! firstable if he is acusing you of doing something wrong all the time is because the jerk is outthere doing the wrong thing his damn self. and he feels like **** that is why he turning all this on you... honey you have kids with him..my advice to you is get the hell out i know this type of man is small chance that they will change you know why because they enjoy being dirt maggets and they enjoy putting you down and making you feel worthless. my first son dad was that way and on top of that abusive use to hit on me for no reason at all,that is why when i felt i was pregnant i didnt even took a pregnancy test i knew it was something wrong so you know what i did my whole family was in florida i was in puerto rico and i got my self in a plane to florida with out clothes with nothing in my hands but a plane ticket and i took my unborn baby or just the tought that i was pregnant and i ran away from him.in florida of course i went to the doctor and they told me i was but you know what my baby was safe even before i was sure he was comming you know why i owed him at least that... a happy childhood away from that jack ***.and today my son is about to graduate highschool ready to enter the marines and has a job and he is engaged he is one hundred percent the man his daddy will ever be.but if i would have stayed who knows wht kind of basket case my son would have turn to be. understand?? your kids first, your kids first.the hell with love and fellings and that dumb *** man is your kids that counts honey and they cant be happy watching their daddy treating you so bad. get out honey do it for your kids.good luck.

Answer 9

Wave to him in the rear view mirror. Sounds like my brother. He still says years later that she ruined his life's plan. Did you see that-HIS PLAN. You are better of getting out with the kids....it's only going to become worse. He is a classic control freak and counseling won't change him, he won't go.

Answer 10

I am speratated from my husband who said the same thing after cheating on me with 6 different women and since we seperated has nothing to do with his daughter because of his new thing. i also heard that i was worthless and stupid and had no clue what i was talking about ever. i am in the process of trying to get a divorce when i can afford it and it sounds like you should do the same. i am sorry for both of us.