I am 26 years old and my boyfriend of 3 years wants to have a kid, but I just don't think I am ready I have a great job and I would like to be married, But if I am not thats ok. I just don't think that i would be a good mom and Don't want him to be disappointed or upset just because I don't want a kid now. I mean I do want to have a few kids just not right now I want to wait. I just have not idea what to do
2006-06-26 11:09:39 · 10 answers · asked by Jessie B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I think you are right you should get married first and you both need to be in the same page about kids they are a hand full if your not ready. I also think if he love you as much as you think he should under stand. Tell him that if you have a kid that your not going to work until the baby goes to school that will scare him and that you want a big house with lots of land so the kids can run around that shoul do it
2006-06-26 11:20:54 · answer #1 · answered by HONEY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let anyone tell you when to have children. It is the biggest responsibility you will ever have. Your life will change down to the smallest detail. Your life will revolve around that child. Enjoy your life a little. I love my children, but if I could have the same children I would have waited until I was more mature. 30's is more settled down time for most. I was 18 with the first and 23 with the second. I don't regret having them, I just wish we were more financially stable and more mature at the time.
2006-06-26 18:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by laurelbush28762 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and communicate with him and tell the man how you feel. Sounds to me like you have some kind of fear of him. If you do, you better hit the road, or tell him to take a hike.
Girl, communication is very important in a marriage. If you don't have that, you don't have anything. If he gets that upset over it and does not respect your wishes tell him to hit the street and don't look back. If he wants a kid that bad tell him to have it.
Lots of Luck with this fellow.
2006-06-26 18:16:03 · answer #3 · answered by MARK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong both people should agree on this. If he wants to start a family now tell him to start planning for the wedding even if it doesn't matter that much to you this would back him up for a while. A lot of men see this as a way to lock you down without buying the cow so say hell no!
2006-06-26 18:16:02 · answer #4 · answered by askmeguru21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's trying to have kids and haven't asked you to marry him, this means he's scared of marriage. So just mention marriage and he'll forget about the kids.
2006-06-26 18:21:10 · answer #5 · answered by roadrunner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, he has not committed himself to u, he is not your husband. How dare he to want children, he should want to run out and buy a ring and want to propose and then want to wait, till u are established and then wait until u are ready. In that order and do not let him bully u.
2006-06-26 18:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you are ready for the next step.
Are you guys engaged to be married?
Be honest with him & don't lead him on any longer.
It takes 2.
2006-06-26 18:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM YOU'RE NOT READY FOR KIDS NOW AND WHEN YOU ARE YOU WANT TO BE MARRIED FIRST THEN HAVE BABIES. WHAT'S WRONG WITH DOING IT THE RIGHT WAY THE OLD FASHION WAY LIKE HAVING LEGITIMATE CHILDREN.
2006-06-26 18:17:44 · answer #8 · answered by BAG LADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him ur not ready and if he is a good boyfriend he will understand. use your job as an excuse good luck
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2006-06-26 18:12:10 · answer #10 · answered by dann b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋