13 and lost virginity. is that bad?

Question

just wanted to know. and should my parents know?

umm.. i wanted to know. should my parents know? e-mail me to talk more.

i liked it. i dont really reget it. i luv him. lotz

Answer 1

you should have waited for the right time.. but what has been done has been done...i just hope u never regreted it... and if u think it will help you to open that up to your parents,why not...just be ready for a 1 month ground...kiddin!

Answer 2

Why!???

First off, If you were like 18 and loved the person, it wouldnt be bad. But you are thirteen, and I highly doubt you know what love is yet. Youre too young. But there isnt anything you can do to change what you did. Just dont let it happen again for a while. I think telling your parents would be ok, and may even make you feel better. But if youre parents are smart there will probably be punishment, or your privelges will change. But maybe you should get checked. I hope this helps you!!!!!!

Wow. I just cant even imagine a 13 yr old having sex!!! What is this world turning into.

Answer 3

Was it your choice? I don't think you've reached the age of consent in most states. That means in the eyes of the law you are still a child, and are too young to make a choice like having sex.

Do you go to church? What does your church say about premarital sex? I'm trying to point you in the direction of what you've be guided by so far. If you're not religious, what have your parents taught you? Have you had a conversation about sex with them?

About your first sexual experience, I wonder did you:
1. talk about sex beforehand with your partner?
2. decide (without pressure) that you were ready to have sex?
3. use contraception (to prevent pregnancy)?
4. make sure your partner used a condom (to prevent STDs)?
5. enjoy it?
6. regret it?

I think there are some things you probably want to discuss with your parents. Of course, only you can guess (they may surprise you) whether it would be a good idea for you to talk to them. (I hope my son will feel he can talk to me when he's your age.) If you don't talk to your parents, you can go to Planned Parenthood for a pelvic exam, counseling, and contraceptives. You just need to find a ride. Maybe you can take the bus? They have a sliding fee scale. So, if you don't have money, they will still treat you. Planned Parenthood's teen website: http://www.teenwire.com/

In our society whether it's bad to loose your virginity, seems to rely on if you are female or male. For males it's good to lose it, for females it's to be kept as long as possible. Such inequalities don't work for me.

I do wonder about your feelings though. I sense you have some regret. Maybe you are not ready for all the emotions that come along with a sexual relationship? You know, sometimes it's nice to be a kid as long as you can. You can always say "no" next time.

Answer 4

"hmmmmm, i dont know, it depends greatly on the person, everyone is different, no ur parents shouldnt know, that is ur business. but yeah i dont think it is really bad, if u did it and have no regrets. anyways i dont think that is a question to be asked on here, it is noone elses business, maybe talk it through with a best friend or in private, k?"

Agreed. Though I have a suggestion. Unltil you know that you are thorougly pregnaut you should TELL your parents. You don't want to end up on the streets on something... anyways, just don't do it again, it's not really right for anyone 18- to do that, but it's really your business. Ask a CLOSE honest friend.
Best of luck ;)

Answer 5

Yeah, that's bad. You are way too young. I feel sorry for you. You know that you don't need to have sex with guys to make them like you. Trust me on that one. The more a guy is pressuring you to do something you don't want to do, the less likely he is to love you.

As far as telling your parents, that depends on how understanding they are. If your parents really love you, they will not punish you, but be concerned for you.

It sounds like you are going through a tough time. I think you need to talk to someone who you can trust about this, rather than asking a bunch of strangers on Yahoo!

Answer 6

13 is too early, but IF you ever do it, make sure you use a condom. Losing virginity is one thing, but getting pregnant or AIDS at 13 is definitely tooooo young!! Any sensible parent would be heart-broken to know their little girl has gone over-board at age 13... I am sure you will regret besing so "easy" when you get older, especially when you meet someone who you really care - he probably won't take you seriously when he learns that you've been sleeping around since 13... It's good to take care of your past, so you don't need to lie in the future...

Answer 7

You can't change the past. Just make sure your health is okay. Whether you tell your parents depends on your relationship with them. But I would recommend you wait AT LEAST until you are on your own before having sex again. Concentrate on learning about relationships and about what you value in another person first.

Answer 8

yes it's bad
you need to get your parents to take you to the doctor and get an AIDS test and an STD screening, get some birth control pills and learn how to use condoms properly and you really need to respect yourself and your body more. Guys will tell you anything they think you want to hear (oh baby I love you so much...) just so they can stick their ***** inside you.....don't fall for it they don't love YOU they just love screwing and if it wasn't with you it would be with any other girl that would let them. You're worth more than that

Answer 9

hmmmmm, i dont know, it depends greatly on the person, everyone is different, no ur parents shouldnt know, that is ur business. but yeah i dont think it is really bad, if u did it and have no regrets. anyways i dont think that is a question to be asked on here, it is noone elses business, maybe talk it through with a best friend or in private, k?

Answer 10

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Read this article on this website.
If you feel ok after it, then you're good.
If you don't then you're not soo good. I'd say only talk to your parents about it if the circumstances were questionable(i.e. against your will or coerced) and you realize you made a really bad mistake.

But please for YOUR SAKE

REAAAAAD!

It has a lot of helpful info on it. You may not be asking this question now had you been aware of this website earlier.

Answer 11

It was not a wise decision to be honest but at least you are thinking about what you did.I would absolutely sit down one or both of your parents and tell them not to get upset that you have a very grown up subject to talk about and you want to be appreciated for your honesty and openness and that you need their advice on what you should do now.Good luck! No matter what you do if you do have more sex please just make sure you use a condom.