if a couple has been legally separated for 2 yrs, and have a terrible relationship (fight all the time, she denies him child access), is it weird that she called him to come meet her and their son for a bite to eat? im this man's gf, and this makes me feel uncomfotable, though he says it was just a chance to see his son. i would never come btween him and his son, but i wonder why the ex has to be there? does that not give false hope to the child??
2006-06-26 10:49:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Been there. You didn't say how the ex feels about you. Why does she deny him seeing his child? Because I do not know if my answer will help if you don't have the same life I had. The ex hated me and didn't mind telling everyone she knew. She thought I was the root of their separation. I didn't even know my now husband at the time they 1st broke up. I had been going with him for about 5 months when I found out that he wasn't DIVORCED! So for that reason she used us being together as what was wrong with their relationship. She told everyone that Mike drank all the time and that she didn't trust him being alone with his son. When really it was a way to punch him for leaving her. The reason for not getting a divorce right away, he didn't want them to cancell their medical insurance. Dumb then...we played her game for many months. Then I started checking things out. He could get the divorce, keep insurance on his kid, pay child support (a must) and the court would let him have his son every other weekend. If she didn't produce the child..She could go to jail. So Check it out where you leave. Your man may want to make the divorce legal...Now to the other part of your question..Why does she have to be there..Just to **** you off more than likely. She will dress up and look great. As if to say..see what you are missing. Have him get a divorce..then the ball is back in your court. Only never be late on one child support payment..or you guess it..she would have him in jail..Again just to **** you off. Don't let her get you down. But, make him make a choice and get a divorce..or get the hell out now why you can.
2006-06-26 11:15:35 · answer #1 · answered by duck 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think you anything to worry about. It not like it is a romantic setting.
Maybe she doesnt trust him being alone with the son. She might feel that he may say negative things about her in order to sway the son to go with him. I just think she is being overly protective at this point.
If there was some proof that they were in constant contact that does not involve issues regarding the son-then I would worry.
2006-06-26 17:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he hasn't gotten divorced after two years of separation it's never going to happen. Why would you want to be with a guy who already has his own family? If I were you I would leave and be on my own for a while. If someone comes along hopefully with no children or ex wife I would take it slow.
2006-06-26 17:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to be friendly to her husband, even though they arent together anymore, but he might still love her, but let me tell you this, he will NOT pick you over his child, trust me, my ex had a gf and he picked his family over her. so let it go, because they will always be communicating over there child together, school, games, ya know that kinda of stuff. It does give the false, but i am sure there child is happy that they are even talking.
2006-06-26 17:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not weird. Who knows why she wanted to talk to him. I'm sure they have things to work out re custody and property settlement. Yes, it might make you uncomfortable, but they're not yet divorced and they have to talk about that stuff. My advice would be to stay out of it as much as possible.
2006-06-26 18:00:37 · answer #5 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be something going on with child and she wants his input.It could be almost anything thats of interest to the child.
2006-06-26 17:54:29 · answer #6 · answered by vze4h35z@verizon.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but she wants to play questions and answers with your b/f. She wants info about his personal life and is finding a way to get that started.
2006-06-26 17:55:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's alright, he's just looking for an opportunity to see his kid.
If he wanted to be with the lady he probably would be.
2006-06-26 17:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it probably has to do with his son. like someone esle said, if he wanted to be with her, he probably would be
2006-06-26 18:50:40 · answer #9 · answered by Britt S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be worried girl she wants something and its not to be nice to her ex
2006-06-26 19:49:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋