My brother knows I'm gay. he is the only one in my family who knows. he hasn't brought it up should I bring it

Question

up^ He found some stuff on computer. then he asked my bestfreind's sister who knows I'm gay she said yes. He hasn't brpught it up yet. He is very against homosexuality

Answer 1

yeh, you should prolly bring it up. that way atleast it will be out in the air, and any tension will be from peoples open opinions, and not from trying to hide it and stuff.

Answer 2

well, if he's against it, that's his issue, not yours. Although I can think of MUCH BIGGER things to have issue with such as the health care crisis, our 4 trillion dollar war, our innate co-dependency on foreign oil, the CEO of Exxon making $298 millon last year....i could go on!! He just lacks perspective on the whole issue.

Do you tell him? Only if you feel it will make you comfortable. Maybe you could just say "listen, I know you asked so and so about me and I'm happy to answer any questions for you so that you don't have to go to her". Or not.

I really don't see a point in bringing it up to him unless he is fully supportive. Since he's not, he hasn't earned your trust with something very personal so for right now, it's between you and whoever you choose.

:)

Answer 3

If you don't tell your family, or friends, then you won't be able to feel like you accomplished anything important. You never want anyone else to state it to your family, you must tell them first. The worst your brother will do is beat you up for being a homosexual(since he's against it, and brothers fight over a bunch of stuff).

Answer 4

well, he is probably just as scared. Just say, "hey, whenever you want to talk about stuff we can" if he doesnt bring it up you can, but it is all probably very scary and you have to be ready.

My bro is gay too, and before he told me i had a much different opinion. Now, i get pissed at people who can't be open minded enough to see that that really has nothing to do with who a person acctually is!

Answer 5

He may be against it, but he isnt the one thats gay. Do what you think is best. If you think you're ready to tell your family then do it. No matter what family should always be by your side to understand what is going on in your life, they should love you for you and not be there to judge.

Answer 6

Well for one thing hes your brother, he loves you no matter what. No matter how mean he is he should love you, and understand. But if hes against homosexuality then try to talk to your parents and tell them before he does, they should hear your side first. Then you should tell him, if he disagrees maybe your parents can talk to him about it. Don't be worried, just get it overwith

Answer 7

Hmmm... do what you feel is best but sometimes things that involve family are better off unsaid. He knows and if it's brought up again- ask him if he would like to talk about it. I won't approach him just yet, let him absorb it first.

Answer 8

He have reason, since every straight forward does not like any gay, I think you must live separated of him, because he might got angry and kill you one day, it's better you leave him and work at gay society, give and receive.

Answer 9

Absolutely! You should not be ashamed of who you are. No one should have to live in a closet. Be proud! If he doesn't accept it right away, give him time. He's your brother and he loves you. He'll come around.

Answer 10

Talk to him or your family only when you're ready, and tell them that this is who you are and that he can't change it and that you hope that he'll learn to accept you for who you are.