I have 2 Boys from a previous Marriage that I have full custody of, I have a Boy with my girlfriend, She Can't stand my oldest boy , being young he may have told her things early on she didn't like, So she's holding a grudge, But I love all My children equally, including her son that she had before I met her.
2006-06-26 10:16:54 · 17 answers · asked by nmrortiz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry but I couldn't be with someone who didn't like ALL of my children.Mybe she dose not like that child because that child looks like your ex. Even if the child said things to her that she didn't like that is no reason to dislike that child the key word is child. Children tend to say things to discourage a person from being with that parent because the child wants their mom and dad together. Either way you have a child with this women so you are stuck with having to deal with her until the child is 18. I would seek some counciling for the whole family. Find out why she likes one but not the other if you plan on staying with her. You need to make sure she is not saying or doing anything to this child that may cause any emotional problems. Seeking counciling is my advice to you.
2006-06-26 10:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends do you really love her if you do then you will talk to her about it ask her if they ever did anything wrong to her ask her if you can put those things behind them and move on and maybe she will learn to love your children too but first you need to know if its her or your kids that are the problem once that is determined try to decide as a family what you can do to resolve these issues if not then you might just have to leave her for someone who will love you children like they were there on hope this helped
2006-06-26 17:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a blended family isn't always going to be easy. I have 3 sons and my husband has 2 sons. You were a package deal when she met you. Life has it's ups and downs. It sounds like the 2 of you need to open up and discuss this. Kids are a lot smarter than we give them credit for and before long, your son will be able to sense how she feels about him. Good luck !!!!
2006-06-26 17:36:01 · answer #3 · answered by pickle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow and you are putting up with that speaking from a womans and a mothers point I would not expect you to choose her over your kids I would not talart somebody being mean to my kids it sounds like you don't have a very big back bone or you would be putting your foot down. Just think how your child feels and you want him to grow to be strong man and sure of himself not feeling like everyone hated him and was not liked and we both now how those kids turn out, so come on dad there ladys out there that do have great hearts and could love all you so give yourself and your kids that chance..Good luck I hope somthing will work for all of you.
2006-06-26 17:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by Cowvictor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can not accept your children from your previous marriage then you dont need to be with her, thats not good for your 2 kids they feel that sort of tention and its devistating to them, they come first. I understand you have a child with your girlfriend in that situation just continiue being a good dad to him and leave his mom all she is going to do is emotionaly mess your older boys up and thats not fair to them, If she wants you then she needs to accept your two boys, If she cant then honey she aint worth it.
2006-06-26 17:23:50 · answer #5 · answered by italianprincess_fl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have to deal with it. and if you can feel she doesn't like him, so can he. its not healthy for him. how do you hold a grudge against a child? she needs to grow up herself. children say things. you've heard "out of the mouth of babes". maybe he told her something about herself that was true. ask her how would she like it if you treated her son the same way.
2006-06-26 17:22:27 · answer #6 · answered by sabrewulf01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her about it. Let her know that your children are very important to you, and let her know what you expect from her. If she can't deal with it or change, then you may need to look for a mate else where. I am glad you recognize there is a problem and not turning your head, just to hang on to her. Good luck.
2006-06-26 17:24:37 · answer #7 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if u can respect and love her child then why cant she do the same for you u have to give a little to get a little let her know how u feel
2006-06-26 18:15:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a sad situation. She may never be able to love them. You've probably already told her how you feel . You might suggest family counseling. If she won't go, go without her. And get your boys counseling. They need it. Good luck, I hope she can change.
2006-06-26 17:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by jenny in ohio 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion anyone who doesn't love your kids doesn't
really care about you. Your kids are apart of you and if she doesn't love and care about them what does that say about her as a womenwho claims to love you and everything about you? My mom always said if you go into a relationship with kids its a total package deal, you cant have me without my kids.
2006-06-26 17:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by smilez 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋