My girlfriend and I have been together for 3 years now, but we go back to high school 8 years ago. So we have a lot of history together. The reason why I called her my fiance is because we were engaged up until about a year ago. We even split up for about 2 months. We've been back together now for about 9 months, when she moved back in with me. We love each other very much, share very similar personalities, and sex is incredible. When she is in a good mood I can't imagine being with anyone else. However she gets in a bad mood incredibly easily. In my opinion she is very high maintainence. To be honest, I beleive she needs medication, but she would never consider it. I am an extremely good boyfriend. I cook for her almost every night. I do small things to show her I love her. I fulfill her sexually. I am very attractive. I'm not controlling and I am very loyal. Why is she so easily angered? She cries easily and will get upset over small things. Should I give up or can I do more?
2006-06-26 10:07:28 · 11 answers · asked by Ken 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thank you to everyone who has responded so far. Your input is greatly appreciated. I agree with most of you, and yes I do believe it goes pretty deep. Her parents got divorced and they both cheated on each other. So she tends to be very apprehensive about trusting me. I won't lie, I do look, but I would never cheat on her. She also cannot let go of mistakes made on my part in our relationship. We have had some arguements more than 20 times. Aaarrgh.
2006-06-26 10:24:44 · update #1
You are not in control of her moods. That's hers and hers alone. She may blame you for her bad moods, but I strongly suspect that she had mood troubles long before you came along. So, it's not your responsibility to "do more" to improve her moods. She needs assistance. More than drugs, she needs a counselor or coach to help her learn better ways to regulate her moods.
Be warned: if she's like this now, she's going to be like this after you marry. Are you willing to spend the rest of your life with her moods this way? If not, then perhaps the wedding should be delayed until you guys figure this out.
2006-06-26 10:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Doom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
High maintenance girls are a handful. She is not going to change. You need to decide what is the best thing for you! Do you want to live the rest of your life with a moody cry-baby? You sound like a sweet guy who has a lot of respect for women. If I were you, I'd know that I deserved better, cut my losses and get out of there.
2006-06-26 10:14:56 · answer #2 · answered by thersa33 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her moods fluctuate too much and too easily. Being with a moody person is never easy, you never know what will set them off and their moods can change at the snap of a finger. You are not going to change her and will waste time if you try. If her moodiness causes problems now, it will cause problems if you marry her. Sex will not solve the problems.
2006-06-26 10:25:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please reconsider having an eternal relationship with your gf/fiance. You will probably end up being depressed the majority of the time like I was for the past eight years. Really moody people do not make good marriage partners unless you are the type who can act like there is nothing wrong all the time.
2006-06-26 10:19:02 · answer #4 · answered by Diana Sims 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds wonderful, but maybe spoiled? You are both young, so take time to give her space. When she is in a "mood" - ignore her. When she comes back around, tell her that you want her to talk about what is upsetting her, if she can. Sometimes our (female) brains are jacked up with hormones that you could never understand, a little meds can straighten us out....
2006-06-26 10:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by EssGee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be mean but it sounds like your gf has a chronic case of PMS!!! To be honest try talking to her to find out why she is the way she is. If you don't get any answers then maybe it's time to seek medical help or take her to a shrink. It may go deeper than you think!!
2006-06-26 10:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya understand what? I *am* in a good mood at present. rather of wanting to strangle all the mutha'uckas in this section, I in uncomplicated phrases favor to strangle a go with few. it really is been a good day in spite of each little thing.
2016-11-15 07:13:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when she gets like this have you asked her why she has an attitude?
maybe she is frustrated because she is tired of being your girlfriend, she is ready to be your wife. you guys have been together now for about 3 years, what are you waiting on? make it official you are already doing what it takes.
2006-06-26 10:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by heresthedeal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would quit doing so much for her. It sounds as if she is taking advantage of you. Ask yourself one question... after her looks fade over time...can you see yourself growing old with someone so crabby and emotionally abusive?Think about it for a while...and good luck with whatever you choose to do!!!
2006-06-26 10:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by pickle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be bipolar or she could have extreme personality disorder. If you love her, find help for her.
If she is just spoiled...move on dude,
2006-06-26 10:21:17 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋