Why do some men cheat on their partners and some don't? What do you think the reason is?

Question

It seems like cheaters are every where. I want to be able to spot them a mile away. Inform me please.

Answer 1

it's Men and Women. Cheaters are classified as people who have issues with themselves and can't deal with conflicts in the relationship so they simply cheat to get their needs met. Their needs can be anything from loneliness to neglect, lack of sex, lack of self esteem, lack of attention, lack of affection and so on. IF these needs are not met, some people cheat to get them met.

THE PROBLEM with this method-cheating- is that these feelings that I mentioned in paragraph one are lacking with a cheater and most people don't understand that they have to tend to their own needs and not expect others to fix them. In other words, someone who is lonely has to help himself, not expect his spouse to and then when his spouse can't deliver, they cheat.

You see, most people who cheat are expecting their partners to fill these voids that I mentioned above when in reality, a person who is emotionally grounded understands that these are things one gives to themselves through proper self esteem and self love. So many people lack those inner feelings (due to upbringing and environment) which is why so many people cheat.

How do you spot a cheater- you don't but you look for someone with self respect, self love, self esteem, honor, integrity, empathy, generosity and all those core values. The more one possesses those qualities, the less likely they will resort to cheating when they feel a void.

Answer 2

There is no single reason, and they don't make "cheater spotter goggles," so the best you can do is learn to recognize the signs.

(Incidentally, nearly as many women cheat now as men)

- Some men cheat because they are in love with the feeling of falling in love. The romance, the excitement, the chase, and the conquest. Once in a long-term relationship, that excitement can fade, and they mistake that for "falling out of love." So, they go on the hunt.
- Some men do not feel loved, respected, needed, or appreciated by their partner, so they find someone who makes them feel those things.
- Some men have specific sexual wants that a partner is unwilling to fulfill, so he may find someone willing.
- Sometimes relationships go bad--arguing, fighting, anger, resentment. When those things set in, it's a good breeding ground for someone to look for affection elsewhere.

There are just a few. None of them justify cheating. But cheating is often the result of the history of the relationship, and both parties are actors in that history.

Answer 3

Many people have their opinions as to why people cheat (not just men do this). The cheaters use the excuses of: it just happened; I couldn't help myself; I wasn't getting enough at home; it didn't mean anything; etc.

But, in my opinion, it's because they don't respect themselves, let alone anyone else. They may say at first that they would never cheat, but then they do. They usually don't have good self esteem (at least in the cases I have encountered this is true) and try to boost it by cheating. They may do it because they want to prove that they are still loveable and likable to others since they may feel tied down from committing to only one person. They may even be getting enough at home, but are sex addicts and one person just doesn't do it for them.

My ex husband got plenty at home (several times a week) but he still insisted on cheating on me. He had one affair that lasted for 4 years; an emotional affair with a coworker; and had made the moves on my boss' sis in law. Who knows how many others he had that I don't know about. He seemd to think that I either didn't care or didn't know and would never find out because he thought I was stupid.

I am not sure how you can spot them. I do know, now that I am away from my ex for good, that everyone around me could tell that he was a liar, cheater, and abuser. I just couldn't see it. So, I would say that when you are with someone, have him meet your friends. Then have them give you an opinion of what they think of him. Usually, other people can see things that we can't. Also, you can watch for how he treats you, others around you (his friends and family, your friends and family, people he meets), see if he smooth talks other women with you there or flirts constantly, etc. These will also tell you if he is a keepr or not, and if he may cheat or not.

I am lucky and have a happy ending to my story. After I got divorced, I found someone that is the total opposite of my ex. He loves, respects, and cherishes all of his friends and family and treats everyone he meets with respect. He also treats me like a God and has me high up on a pedestal, like I do him.

Answer 4

I don't think you can necessarily spot a cheater, some may be that obvious but others change during certain circumstances, its all about integrity...look up the meaning. I always knew my wife was a flirt, but I thought I was the best man she could possibly get...I knew her well and knew I was good for her, but her character lacked integrity, a victim of circumstances, and after 20+ years she ended up cheating on me...way back in my mind..something shouted out to me...you knew that would happen! I just gave her the benefit of the doubt..I didn't let the 20 years be ruined until she proved me wrong...men/women...judge their integrity..know what they are capable of and they more than likely won't let you down.

Answer 5

cheaters... well. a few years ago i would have said that men cheat cuz they aren't happy at home.. but after the last few years i got to say that I am beginning to think that even though 'monogomy' is suppose to be the norm I don't think humans are made that way.
i know that sounds weird but I have experienced the feelings and I can tell you cheaters don't cheat always cuz they are unhappy sometimes it just 'happens' I know that sounds like a cop out.. BUT I tell you it happens. Men and women are both as likely to cheat just because they are bored... lonely... or just need change it doesn't mean they don't love their parnter anymore

I guy friend told me once that " one isn't enough" I thought he was nuts..but ya know its true.

Answer 6

The bad thing is- when you really fall for someone you won't cheat on them. So, you can't spot them a mile away because its not like they have a stamp on their forehead. A guy that cheated on the last 3 girls he dated might be completely faithful to you. A guy thats always been faithful in the past might cheat on you. You can ask before you get emotionally involved if they've ever cheated on someone and why they did it. Because in the end, theres never a good excuse to cheat, if he points any fingers "She didn't want to have sex as much as I did" "She nagged too much" "The relationship wasn't good" than you know this guy believes that cheating OK behavior. If someone's cheated in the past and felt bad they'll take responsibility for it "Because I was insecure." "Because I wasn't ready for a relationship" etc.

Answer 7

You can't really spot them, but you can figure out really fast what a man (or a woman) is all about. Don't be afraid to ask probing questions that require a direct answer. Ask when they least expect it and then watch how they answer it. Ask again another time in a roundabout way and see whether the facts are consistent. If you're single and a married man gets really friendly, guess what...

Answer 8

My husband started cheating on our third year of marriage. It's hard to tell when a man is a cheater. The reasons I don't really now. I gave my husband everything a man can need and he still f**k me over.

Answer 9

Some men know the true meaning of their marriage vows and have decency, morals, dignity and common sense. Those who don't are not to be desired and go around thinking with the wrong head.

Answer 10

A man with good character, and who values honesty, is not going to cheat. They will end one relationship before pursuing another.
Trust your gut instinct on men. If you think a guy is cheating, he probably is.