I plan on joining the army what do i do about my boyfriend?

Question

I love my boyfriend but i think i should break up with him now before I leave . I dont think i can take all the thinking and wondering if he will be faithful, I think i rather leave without being with anyone and with a clear mind . But then there is a part of me who wants to marry him but I dont know, im so confused? What should i do please some helpful advice. Plus he is and older man and im younger then him, I dont know if he will be here when I come back or will he find someone else to be with since he says he is ready to settle down . He really doesnt want me to join but its somthing i really wanna do with my life, he wants a women so he can take care of her and have her home while he works and thats not me I love him but I need to do for my self not have a man take care of me and he doesnt understand that. Just wanna know what someone else would do if they were in my shoes? Leave him now , marry him or see how long it will last while im away ,as boyfriend /girlfriend relations

Answer 1

I was in the army also. Don't break up with him yet. You're gonna need all all the support you can get from you making calls and getting letters. Before I went in I was very independent but when I heard from my girlfriend it helped me out a lot. Then he can come visit you when you get your weekend passes. He's older so he probably knows that you are definitely the one so this time away might help both of you.

Answer 2

Hey, if he didn't need a younger female, I'd say I'll take care of him for you. lol Seriously, you are a rare breed, don't want to be taken care of by a man, that's unusual. Anyway, it's going to be hard for both of you, but you are being realistic. Leave as a good friend if possible, because he's definitely going to fill your place. It's the nature of the beast, (men) to have a counterpart in their life, although he may love you a lot.

Answer 3

Oh my gosh! You sound like me! I want to join the military and do things with my life that would take me away for long stints of time, but I do love my b/f and would like to get married eventually. He's older than me and already has his dream job. I'm still on the road to getting mine, and I tell him to wait. A good seperation should strengthen your relationship. Do what your life calls you to do, dear. Love will find a way. Don't just dump him for that. Talk to each other in a sweet, understanding way, and when you're done, please tell me so I will know what to do when my talking time comes w/ MY boyfriend. :-/ Thanks, and I wish you God's best.

Answer 4

Leave him now, before you leave. Chances are he won't sit around waiting for you, and you'll be free to enjoy the whole army experience without worrying about some boyfriend back home.

Answer 5

I would have a long distance relationship and if that doesnt work out then hes not the one for you!

Answer 6

do what your heart tells you. there are lots of people that join the military while they are in relationships and they work so keep him and do whats better for both of you and if he doesnt wait for you there are lots of men in the army for you to choose from

Answer 7

I will do what i want to do. If you dont join, later on in life you are going to regret it, and you are going to be trhowing it in his face that you did not join in because of him. If he really loves you he will wait for you and support you. Its something yo uhave to seriously think about and talk to him and tell him that is what you want in life, he has to respect it cause its your choice.

Answer 8

see how long it will last while u are away, when u join the army it will be so lonley and u might need him to get through it