is it better to divorce or to let my partner destroy me day by day?

Answer 1

Get divorced........

Answer 2

Well, why are you "LETTING" anyone destroy you? First of all, if you don't have kids, let him know EXACTLY what it is that bothers you and if he keeps doing it leave.

Now, with that said, you have to be specific. Too many women are way too vague and say things like "you're not affectionate" or "you never compliment me' or whatever. This is a foreign language to a guy. You have to lay down specific things that you want them to do. They are like horses. Great intentions, totally clueless about how to deliver. We Teach People How To Treat Us. So if hes destroying you because you aren't getting your needs met, figure out what your needs are and ask that he meets them. If he has no desire to (he'll let you know if he doesn't) then you simply leave.

Answer 3

I told my mother to leave my father, because he was killing her. Not by physical abuse but by mental abuse. She can't eat, she can't sleep, she can't work, she is sick all the time. I want her here, not in a hospital or some mental clinic from a nervous break down. I love my Dad, don't get me wrong, but they are no longer good for each other. I see it, I hate it, but I want her to have some peace. If they are destroying you leave, before they have you at a place that you can recover from. Divorce is hard, but sometimes there is no other solution....

Answer 4

That decision would be up to you. But i certainly would not want to be with someone who is destroying everything about me as a person, as an individual.

Generally, individuals who destroy someone else's happiness are very unhappy individuals themselves. It is a control mechanism for them, and that is what makes them feel good. They know your weak areas, and prey on them. You become the victim.

You need to believe in yourself and stay strong. And make your decision if the quality of your life is better with or without him.

Answer 5

This must be so hard for you.
What I can say is this. You only have one life and you deserve to be happy. This person cannot possibly be making you happy if you say they are destroying you. My best advice to you is, even though it may hurt, you need to get out. You don't indicate how this person is destroying you, but that can't be positive in any way. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

Divorce, why let someone tear you down everyday. I don't know you, but you deserve so much more in your life. There is always someone out there that will treat you better. If you continue to let the other person drag you down they will get worse.

Answer 7

Get a divorce. Who needs to be treated like that?

Answer 8

Get divorced, be there for yourself, do not let anyone destroy you.

Answer 9

DIVORCE no one deserves to be destroyed on a daily basis ...but i think that you already knew that

Answer 10

i know no one should let nobody make them feel this way,and no one should stay with anyone who would destroy them. honey am not telling you to stay or go,but i know that you can tell your partner how you feel.and maybe they consider on treating you well.try counseling ,or if none of this work then go with your heart.

Answer 11

you dont give any details on what the situation is. why are you letting someone treat you like that? what does he do to you that is so bad? is there something you could do to improve things? is this person being horrible to you on purpose, or are you just not speaking up and confronting them about your concerns?