We do good now, things are great but I would like to have sex a little more often without having to come out and ask for it.
2006-06-26 09:41:18 · 10 answers · asked by Andy S 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What's wrong with coming out and asking for it?
And no, that's not entirely a rhetorical question. I ask because for years, I used to think that if my wife REALLY loved me, she'd just KNOW when I wanted sex. (Which, let's face it, is pretty easy to figure out -- if I'm breathing, I want sex. :-) A lot of this is because when we were first married, we were at each other all the time. (In our past relationships, we had both been the one who wanted it "too much," so it was such a joy to find each other and explore our own upper limits instead of hearing from our partners, "Jeez, we did it yesterday, how many times a week do you WANT it?") When the frequency dropped after we had children (it's more difficult to throw your partner to the livingroom floor and have wild, loud sex at 3 PM on a Saturday afternoon if your kids have friends over playing Nintendo), this bothered me for a while. I thought it meant she didn't love me as much, I thought it was Something I Did, I thought it was -- you get the picture.
Things have really improved in the past couple of years, since I learned the simple act of saying "You know, I'd really like some kind of sexual activity tonight. What are you up for?"
So the answer is, go ahead and ask her!
As another Wicked Sex Tip: In my experience, one's chances of getting lucky increase exponentially after a really good backrub. Find out where she's always sore, learn what relaxes her, and be generous. Besides, if nothing else, you're running your hands over the naked body of the woman you love, and that's on my top three list of favorite activities in and of itself.
2006-06-26 10:42:15 · answer #1 · answered by Scott F 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Women think more with their hearts and emotion than men do! SOOOOOO thats where u need to start. Its all the little things you do during the day that leads you to a wonderful steamy night! Try buying her a basket full of bubble bath, scented lotions, scented canles and bathbeads. You can either have a candle light bath together or once she is in her bath soaking- and feeling wonderful she will remember YOU who gave her this gift! Make her some home made sex coupons so she can use them when she is in the mood! I love getting coupons! When u r in the middle of Walmart- pull her into your arms and lay one hell of a kiss on her! Right there in front of god and everyone! Whwen you two r in the car- stop the car- pull to the side- dash across traffic just to pick her some pretty wild flowers! Women need to feel loved, special, needed, and important. We need to know we r the most beautiful woman in YOUR eyes. Try writing a lipstick message on the bathroom mirrot that says I love you. Put a message on the shower stall that say Think of me when u r wet and slippery. There are alot of free ways to get the romance going!!!!! Good luck to u
2006-06-26 16:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get home before her make her a romantic dinner set candles around the house with romantic music playing, flirt, make passes at her tell her you have to do something after dinner and go run bath water to make a bubble bath have candles around the bathroom and two glasses of champagne ready and chilled and go for it good luck
2006-06-26 16:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by ice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Asking is queer. Sit next to her...tell her she looks beautiful and that you feel you are a very lucky man, then try to kiss her. Do sweet things like bring her flowers, brush her hair, make her breakfast and bed. How could she pull away when you make yourself indispensable to her. And that IS what you have to do.
2006-06-26 16:53:15 · answer #4 · answered by Shebaby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intiate!
"Hey baby, wanna F***?" is not romantic (I tried to tell my ex-hubby this 100x)
Send her a text or email msg saying what you want to do to her, make her a romantic dinner, give her a massage, take her away for the night, take her to a lingere shop and have her pick something out.....
Best of luck-
2006-06-26 16:46:20 · answer #5 · answered by Rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should caress her more, and comment her, and play with her once in a while, those things lead to making love. Hop in the shower with her, without telling her, rub her back...
2006-06-26 16:46:55 · answer #6 · answered by LostMind 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to get more is to give more. Sex is only 1 hr. and the way to get it more is to make the other 23 hrs. appealing to the spouse..
2006-06-26 16:49:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how do I get more from my husband. he says he's attracted to me but we only get freaky once a month I would like it to be once awk
2006-06-26 16:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by bootyfuldisaster83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find some other interests so that your not constantly bugging her for sex.
2006-06-26 17:40:53 · answer #9 · answered by sweetie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her
2006-06-26 16:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by jeff402006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋