If you are in good and solid relations with your exes how is important to you to see them on a regular basis? I mean, do you consider them to be friends or do you keep looking at them as exes? Do you think of them as sb who played a certain role in your life and shouldnt just vanish because sth you had (a different kind of a relationship included) and obviously didnt work out?
2006-06-26 09:30:53 · 21 answers · asked by Pwerunicca 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
To trebor h: "get over those feelings"- I have none. Be afraid of the potential, not the consumated and (happily) resolved. By ending the romantic part you are most probably ending the part that was wrong...
Im just trying to figure out a way to save an old friendship and a boyfriend who has bad experiences with his exes and therefore thinks we need to share the same (his) opinion. He said he ll give him a shot and Im trying to help him with that.
2006-06-26 10:17:34 · update #1
When I am done, I am done. Hanging out with exes strains your new relationships in spite of what your new significant other says. Why would you want to hang with them anyway?
2006-06-26 09:34:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's sort of difficult. This question has a number of answers depending on each person's particular situation. For me, I fell in love with this one girl and we broke up for a number of reasons. We stopped speaking for a very long time but within the last half year or so we've been talking on and off. But even so we still argue a lot. If both individuals can truely become at ease with the fact that they are only friends then it is a good idea in my opinion. When you have a strong relationship with someone that person gets to know you for who you are and at times that can be a very important thing. It's nice to know someone who really knows you. But this sort of thing does not always work out, especially if one of the individuals were dumped, usually because emotions will still stir when around that person. I hope that helped.
2006-06-26 16:38:22 · answer #2 · answered by Corey C. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all!!! They are EX'S for a reason..... If we could still get along we probably would still be together. I have one that I keep in touch with, only because we should have never tried dating in the first place and should have just keep it as friends. But if he were to fall out of my life it would be no big deal. I have many other friends that I never had a relationship with.
2006-06-26 16:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by luckyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am good friends and WILL remain good friends with my first ex. Obviously, we didn't work out. But, I think that we have built a good, solid friendship out of the love that we once shared for each other. Not, instead of that relationship love, we have brotherly and sisterly love for each other. I tell him anything and everything, including things going on in my life, school, work, and relationship wise. He knows almost everything that is going on in my relationship with my current man. It is not imperative that we see each other, online is sufficient for us. He lives in California anyway, and I live on the opposite side of the country. It doesn't matter, really. We are still good friends.
2006-06-26 16:35:12 · answer #4 · answered by shawny4me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of my exes are friends. It depends on how ya'll break up and what the reason was. For example, my last ex-boyfriend is not my friend because he abused me. But the one before him, is my friend because we decided to end the relationship to explore other people. Sometimes relationship with exes are good and some are bad. It depends on what happened in your last relationship with that person.
2006-06-26 16:37:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some times you can manage a friendship with some of your exes and some times you cant. I am friends with some of my exes and not with others! Some times things happen that just can not be fixed if you are keeping in contact, and some times there is just to much tension to get over it all!
2006-06-26 16:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by princeessintraning 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very important for you to be in contact with your exes especially if there is children involved. Because they are the most important in your life and the ex's life. So to me there has to be a boundary of connection between you but not to go past it.
2006-06-26 16:36:33 · answer #7 · answered by LESLEA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex has no part in my life at all. He was a boyfriend for two years, but that was in the past. I don't hate him, but I wouldn't want to hang out with him. Yeah, we had a part, but that doesn't entitle him to be a part of my present life. My marriage with my husband is what makes me happy now! =D
2006-06-26 16:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am still friendly with some exes via e-mail. And I even meet one for a beer every now and then to catch up (small town stuff).
He has even introduced me to his fiance and we get along wonderfully.
Most were meaningful relationships who shaped who I am today.
No matter why we broke up I still care for each guy individully and wish them the best.
With that:
My ex-husband cheated on me with my cousin, and she and I no longer converse, however my ex and I still text msg. every few weeks to check up, even tho they are not feelings of love, I still care for him and want him to be happy-
2006-06-26 16:37:27 · answer #9 · answered by Rae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of my past relationships have been so awful, that I'd rather my ex just didn't exist anymore. See him on a regular basis?? Ha! I'd rather eat glass.
2006-06-26 16:33:30 · answer #10 · answered by dulcetpurr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋