Do you think it is wrong for a woman to sleep with a man just to have his baby?

Question

i willo note ask for support i just want the kid

he wants the baby to . and we could be togather. what i have been doing is no secret . he wants me to be happy

Answer 1

NO it's not wrong because many more women want children than men do, and we all can't share the same few men.

Not only that, but if we wait until the men want children, then we may be too old to conceive (age-related infertility can start as early as age 26).

Be honest with him. Let him know that you want a child and want him to be the father. then there's nothing wrong with it at all.

Answer 2

I think you may feel that you want the baby, and there is nothing wrong with wanting one. But you also need to consider the affects of what your little one not having a father around will be later. Childhood requires nurturing from both parents, and without both, it may have devastating affects later, especially if your child knows the basis of the conception that you don't want support. You may be very mature and not need support, but food for thought: Are you ready to play the role of 2 parents and answer questions as the babies mother when the baby gets older about why you've chosen to conceive the way you may be choosing to do so? I hope you make the right decision for you and your baby, so he/she will understand the meaning of puppies and rainbows from both Mommy and Daddy's viewpoint.

Answer 3

Children really do better with two parents and yes this includes the fact that people get divorced wich hurts kids also. If you are planning on raising the child alone then you really plan not to raise it at all since the child will be in someone elses care most of the time. Think about it long and hard before you do anything. Children are the most precious thing in the world and derserve better than this world has been giving them.

Answer 4

Yes. It is unfair to him and especially unfair to the child.

Kids really need both a mom and dad, even if they don't live together. Moms and dads bring different perspectives and teach different things to their kids and kids without both really suffer for it. Not to mention that a kid that doesn't even know dad will always feel like a piece of him is missing.

I had one (the last) out of wedlock and we did not marry. It was an oops..I didn't mean to get pregnant, but could not bring myself to abort as I make really good money and had two other kids so I knew what I was getting into and I could handle it. His dad and I get along great and he's an awesome dad.

And what if this unintentional father has a moral structure that doesn't allow him to walk away and pretend he doesn't have a child? A lot of men feel as attached to their kids as moms do.

And as to not wanting support, you can't legally give up the right to ask for support (not even if he relinquishes his rights) and even if you don't take support, dad's still entitled to visitation and possibly partial custody. If you try to deny it, you could end up losing custody yourself.

Lastly don't assume you won't need support. As I said in my situation, I thought I wouldn't need it, but I lost my job a year later and definitely needed the help then. Plus costs rise as they get older. These days, in addition to child support (and I collect about half of what I could get), my son's dad pays for his hockey, swim team and karate. He is also contributing money to his college fund. Without that financial support, my son would lead a much less rich life.

If you try to raise him alone, he will spend a lot of hours in daycare and with babysitters. While that's not a horrible thing, it does mean he gets raised more by other people than his own parents.

So...give yourself time to meet someone you can happily raise children with. These days women can have babies into their 40's.

Answer 5

girl, you don't have a clue of how it will be to be a single parent, because that's the road you're headed down, if he don't know it's even worse, and if he agree than why can't yall be together? you give him the right to do what ever he wants to you, he just want sex a baby haven't really cross his mind yet and wait until you get pregnant he is going to flip out on you! and you will be a single parent, wait until you love yourself before creating another life in this world, a baby don't ease the pain of feeling lonely? struggling is a option and change is envitable

Answer 6

No it isnt. as long as you arent going to turn around and ask him for money or anything. just look at him more as a cheap sperm donor! haha, but for real, i wouldnt agree with this if you had ANY intention of asking for child support or anything. This is more of a one night stand kind of thing, where you will never see this man again. BUT DO NOT DO THIS IF YOU ARE JUST TRYING TO KEEP A MAN! But if you are in a position to take care of you and a baby then go for it.

Answer 7

Your damn right it is. Society ends up paying for his upbringing. Even the Clintons knew that a two-parent family is optimum for rearing children. It you ' just want the kid' adopt one .

Answer 8

If both parties consent then that's fine. Otherwise it's a very selfish and inconsiderate thing to do.

Answer 9

Yes. It's not fair to the man and it's not fair to the child. How do you explain how he was conceived? Under deceipt?

Answer 10

i feel that you should love the person and want to be with the person before having a baby with them. that's just my thought