deal with any advice please
2006-06-26 09:09:08 · 8 answers · asked by Anna B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I was raped when I was 17. I am 21 now. I still havent gotton over it. I dont think I ever will. BUT I do not let it rule my life anymore. I have good days and bad days... but the point is I still have days. Its always gonna be there there you cant change the past. but it doesnt have to define you....
In a moment I found myself a victim.... In a lifetime I am finding my self a SURVIVOR
2006-06-28 19:37:26 · answer #1 · answered by dani 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
being a guy, i can`t comment on how you even begin to feel or even deal with it.
All i can say is, the low life that attacked you is not what all men are like.
we are all different, please dont judge every guy you meet as a potential attacker.
Things you should do.
1) Do NOT blame yourself for the attack,(i dont know if you do or not)
2) Do NOT change your attitude to the way you live your life.
3) Try and be the same person that you were before the rape.
4) some people may say 2u `Time is a great healer` it`s not, just try and get on with your life
this prob not help you much, just be the confident woman that you were and still are
2006-06-26 09:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by mysps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you receive any counselling after it happened? If not, you might find that helps you understand how you feel about it and accept it - although of course it won't take away what happened.
If it happened to you at a relatively young age (ie. below the age of 25) and if you find it has particularly impacted on how you deal with relationships now, then psychotherapy might be an option - speak to your GP about it (although psychotherapy on the NHS can be hard to get hold of).
2006-06-26 09:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame. Feel sorry it happened to you, but you don't really get over it, you just deal and move on. Been abused as a child and i still cringe when i remember things that were done to me. Make an effort to move on because if you don't then the rapist has taken everthing away from you. You deserve better than that.
2006-06-26 09:30:33 · answer #4 · answered by abi_sweetgirl23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get totally over it... It is like any form of sexual abuse...
You'll always be wary of people and/or situations that remind you...
Just live each day of your life realising that you were the victim... You didn't do anything wrong and therefore shouldn't feel ashamed...
2006-06-26 09:12:51 · answer #5 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please see this site
www.rapecrisis.co.uk
You can e mail them at
info@rapecrisis.co.uk
They are there specifically to help women and girls who have been traumatised by rape, sexual abuse, and provide sources for couselling for free.
PLEASE do NOT listen to anyone who tells you you will never get over it, never feel normal again. You CAN. You NEED to seek help, and you need to be helped for a long enough period of time so that you can begin to return to normality and reclaim your life. I promise you, there IS hope.
2006-06-26 09:28:44 · answer #6 · answered by lili4ndevil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to speak to a specialised rape councellor. there are helplines or you can ask your local police station to put you in touch with a rape crisis centre. they will not make you do anything you dont want to do and they are trained to be there for you in any way that you need.
2006-06-26 09:24:27 · answer #7 · answered by ladyjinx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its always there in the back of your mind but (as I did) you'll wake up one morning and it will be less of a problem than it used to be.
2006-06-26 09:14:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋