Old guy verses New guy??

Question

O.K.. I was seeing this older guy a year ago, and i stopped seeing him, I had a lot of suspicions and this guy was about 12 years older than me, he has been a bachelor for years and has been in a numerous amount of relationships, I really did not date him and we really did not go out a lot he was again living a bachelor life, since then I have been in a new relationship for about six months and this guy is really nice and we have done so much in the last six months compared to what I have done with the guy #1, I do like him and I could see being with him but the problem is this: guy #1 wants to come back into my life and is ready to settle down with someone and guess who he chose in the meantime, I have been having fun with guy #2 but he has some baggage from his past relationships that is causing some problems between us, I am willing to work with him and stick it out but I don't know if he is worth losing over guy #1, please give me some advice

Answer 1

Wow, u sound like your living my life minus the new guy I've had a couple of friends but I always let them go for this older guy.U have to think about the time when you two were fooling around is it worth losing guy #2.He's been there for you and u said your willing to work with him I say you say with him and forget the old guy because remember he lived that bachelor life for a while and a relationship is going to be a difficult change for him.I f you choose him u must be ready for the consequences that come with that relationship.You might get it a realize it wasn't even worth letting go go #2

Answer 2

Everyone has baggage so #2 is OK in that area.
#1 can have baggage of his own because he has been alone for so long. Also #1 may be serious about you but will have some problems learning to share. You basically need to deside which guy is best for you, and what issues you can put up with to get to the good stuff. I married an older man who was used to doing things his way and it sometimes can be difficult but he has so many good qualities it out weighs the other stuff. Also because he is older, he is smarter and more serious about life and me. It worked out for me. I prefer the more mature type. Regardless of who you choose be honest with the other guy and don't play them both because you will loose both. I wish you the best.

Answer 3

You have to ask yourself who you would be more happy with overall.....who makes you smile when you think about him? Who do you wake up thinking about and go to bed thinking about??
Problems can be worked out as long as both people are willing to compromise and work through them....who excites you more and who do you have more in common with, this makes a huge difference because if your stuck with a couch potato and you are a very active person....then what kind of life will you wind up having? There should be a lot of common things between whoever you choose....at least this is what I would want....I wouldn't want to have to constantly try persuading my man to do this or that...it should come naturally, this way you can grow together and experience life together.....just because your older, doesn't mean that your life has to come to an end and you are house bound forever.....marriage or living together shouldn't be considered a ball & chain, if it is...then your with the wrong person. People "settle" for other people and this is where they get into trouble....who said that you can't be happier by yourself if you truly aren't ready to make your mind up???
Good Luck to you!!!

Answer 4

Worth losing guy # 1 ????? Guy #1 isn't worth a damn thing. So he now decides its time and your just going to drop your life and run back ?? It wasn't a good relationship to begin with. And you know, there are other guys than just these 2.