me shyguy, not confident, etc but My father had me at 30 and that's why he at 57 can still talk to me and be happy.. i'm 26 now. But he's so tired now from work, beginning to get depressed, and sometimes i feel he wants to die. it's sad .. I would like to have a baby at 30 because if i had a kid at 40, then i would only enjoy being with him like 20 years or less... that's not fair to the kid..so how can you do this if you don't have possibilities for a girlfriend that can grow into a relationship and marriage and kids..
2006-06-26 08:43:51 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How do you know that some woman may not come along tomorrow and be "the one" for you. If you want it, get out there and start meeting people. They aren't going to just suddenly appear unless you get outt here and meet people.
2006-06-26 08:46:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fate works in strange ways. If it was meant to happen you will meet the right girl and marry then have children. You can always try adoption but you are less likely to recieve a child being single and a man(sorry).My brother is 40 and his wife is 39 and they are having their second child.My brother didn't get married just to get married so he waited for the right woman. He may be older as a father but he is more secure and wiser in his decisions.Plus he has the heart of a child and so does his wife.Just something to think about....
2006-06-26 15:54:29 · answer #2 · answered by miss-snoopy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can adopt. I have similar thoughts too. I want to start having kids because I'm afraid I won't be able to spend much time with them and I am 25 now. But if you really want to have your own biological kid then you have to find a woman, not just any woman a good woman. Someone you can trust your life with and someone who can be a good mother. Good luck finding her. In 2006, its very difficult having a sustainable relationship, to many wh***s are there. Now I heard females cheat too, how disgusting? Keep hope alive, am sure there is a woman out there that you can really really love and have a decent relationship and possibly marry. Good luck finding her.
2006-06-26 15:52:29 · answer #3 · answered by I.B. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if becoming a parent is not in your future, there are MANY ways to have a huge influence on a kid's life. You could volunteer at Big Brothers or some other organization. Become a Boy Scout leader. You could play ball with a neighbor kid, whatever.
There are many people in my children's lives that are not their parents but have been a great influence and have really impacted their lives in a positive way.
2006-06-26 15:50:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mistress T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are looking at life wrapped up in a package. The way you're explaining it don't have to be. Your Dad may be depressed, but he's not too old to have an enjoyable life still. You could look at being artificially inseminated by someones sperm, but then you'd be rushing your life away too. Take the time to pray to God for things to work out for the better on both your behalves.
2006-06-26 15:58:05 · answer #5 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be possible for you to adopt a child. There are loads of kids out there who need good homes. I know some states prefer couples to adopt kids, but some are relaxing their policies on this. Also, if you have a close female friend, you could ask her to carry a child for you. I know some people, a gay couple and a friend of theirs ... the woman had a child using one of the men's sperm and they have joint custody of a darling girl. There are always ways!!
2006-06-26 15:49:02 · answer #6 · answered by jmkafer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt rush into a relation whether couple relationship or parent relationship because of what someone else had or idealism. Make sure it is right for you and something you are ready for emotionally and financially. The divorce rate is high for a reason. And you definitely dont want to have kids "just because".
Best! :-)
2006-06-26 15:49:48 · answer #7 · answered by Leon Spencer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know you have not a chance of a marriage and children.. you can find a decent wife and have children.. just make sure you are financially able to take care of a wife and children...you are worrying about something you do not need to worry about.. calm down and start dating and try and find a woman that would make a suitable wife for you.. as for your dad there is a lot of reasons he could be depressed.. i get depressed a lot too.. but i imagine for different reasons...try to be happy and nice and go out and find someone you can care for...sometimes when you least expect it you may find the girl of your dreams...
2006-06-26 15:50:45 · answer #8 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u can adopt become a foster father u dont need a woman plentyof single men are raising kids u can 2 look into foster care and adoption in your state as 4 your dad maybe he need a companion or a hobby take him to a baseball or basketball game do things with him when he's not tried i wish u well
2006-06-26 15:58:10 · answer #9 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are having kids later and later in life these days..putting work and careers first....why is there no opportunity for you to meet someone????? there's always opportunity..at the grocery store, the car wash, the local coffee shop...your 26..the world is at your fingertips...all you have to do is figure out how to utilize it.
Be confident and girls will look your way!!!!!!
2006-06-26 15:48:29 · answer #10 · answered by joschaos 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋