how do you tell your mother that you're having sex and you may be pregnant?

Question

i'm 18, just recently graduated high school, i have a good paying job, and i'm trying to get my own place, but i don't know how she would react

Answer 1

Wow, talk about rotten timing. Just when you have so much of life to experience and the best time of your life, now saddled with such a responsibility.
You only know what your relationship is with your mom and your family dynamics, so you must do what is best for you and that is tell them. Obviously, your single, and being alone during this time is hard enough, why make it harder. If anything, your family is going to be very disappointed if only that you have compromised the future that you may have laid out for yourself, at least you will have to be more responsible, that is if you plan on keeping the baby.
Abortion is a personal choice, one not to be made lightly, but in the alternative, adoption is a viable choice.
What about the child's father, you make no mention of him. Is this a long term relationship, or just a casual fling? That makes a difference in how your family may react. If long term, their adults, they must suspect intimacy between you two. If a fling, they may be upset that you failed to protect yourself better.
Either or, the next decision will be the hardest you will face over the next few weeks and months. You need help, it's ok, and you need support, we all do when faced with life changing decisions.
Don't hide this, this is not the time to "spite the nose on your face because you are legally an adult". Frankly, what has possibly transpired (pregnancy) is rather irresponsible. I don't intend on implying that your or your partner were negligent, accidents happen, it was just a way to prepare you for what you may hear when you confirm if your pregnant or not and tell them should you find that you are.
You are the only one who can answer the most obvious question: Are you really ready to accept the responsibility of raising a child and all that goes with it? Are you prepared to sidetrack your dreams and future that you had laid out for yourself? Do you really, deep down understand how difficult it will be to make the decision to have the child, terminate the child, or adopt the child out?
Please, talk to someone who truly cares about you and your future, don't take this on by yourself.
Whatever the initial reaction may or may not be, your mother will love you no matter what..

Answer 2

You Should Tell Her!!And You Need To Take The Pregnancy test And If You Were Pregnant How Ur Guy Gonna React??He Wants A Baby?!Or He Will Just Leave I Seen Alot Single Moms Those Days!

Answer 3

I just wouldn't say anything until I found out for sure. You are 18 so there isn't much she can do but make you feel bad. She is your mother and yes she is going to be hurt, but she will deal with it in her own way. She will stand by you know matter what, she loves you, that is her grandchild. She may already know before you tell her and she is waiting for you to say something. I got pregnant at 18 and my mom knew before I even told her. Its a mothers instinct I guess.

Answer 4

Go out for lunch and tell her you want to discuss some things with her. I would be sure you are pregnant before you tell her you "think" you might be. I would ask her advice about birth control. She may not know much about what is available with birth control these days but she loves you and wants the best for you. Saying no to sex until marriage is the best choice. When it is too late for that then birth control is the second best choice. If you are responsible enough to have sex then you should have already been using birth control.

Answer 5

Probably won't have to. Moms just seem to know. When I got pregnant, my mom chased me down and basically told me I was pregnant, lol. But just be honest. It seems you're trying to do the adult thing, so handle it that way and she should take you seriously. Tell her that you would like for her to support you(mentally) and you understand the responsibility that goes with having a child.She may flip out, she may not. But even if she does, she'll calm down. And most of all, Congratulations if the test ends up +!!

Answer 6

First, find out for sure if you're pregnant.
If you are tell her during church service. Just kidding, you're an adult and you have a job. Keep working at trying to get a place. Admit to your mom that you know that you were irresponsible and she won't have to say it. She'll probably be disappointed and even angry at first, but she'll get over it. You're going to have to work really hard to prove to her that you're a responsible adult, so try not to do anything else that isn't wise.

Answer 7

Honesty is the best policy. Pregnancy can be a difficult experience alone. And child birth is so much worse than telling your mom! You're going to want and need her support through this. She's your mom. She'll probably be upset, and she may not talk to you for a while. But once it sinks in, she'll be happy to help you and she'll be even happier that a new baby's on the way!

Answer 8

Wow, how close are you to your mom?

Just remember that every baby is a blessing. No matter what.
Remember that some women are never able to have their own children, so be happy that you are not one of these.
And don't be angry at her if she becomes angry with you, eventually she'll be ecstatic to become a grandmother. You just have to let her become used to the idea. I'm sure any mom would want you to just be honest with her and tell her what your plans are, sure she'll probably have tons of questions, but in the end, you are her child, she loves you no matter what.
Good luck! Congrats! May God bless you and your baby!

Answer 9

STOP> Don't even go there yet until you KNOW you are pregnant. Get a home pregnancy test and if it says you are, go to a free clinic and get a blood test. Then if you are, you can worry. And bbtw if you are not, get on the pill. Yes, really. Unless you want to feel the crap you are feeling now that you think you might be and what to do and all that...But don't tell your mom anything at all until you are sure there is something to tell.

Answer 10

I have a daughter and I would want her to come to me a be open and honest, she may not react to it all that well at first but she will grow to be fine with it, if she's good mom she will probably be hurt but she will be forgiving and understanding it just may take some time, and 9 months is plenty of time trust me