what do you think?
2006-06-26 08:30:03 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
There is never an excuse for abuse
2006-06-26 08:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 8⤋
In any abusive relationship, it is never the fault of the abused person, regardless of their gender or their age. An abuser is manipulative, power-seeking, and sneaky. Do not fall into the belief that a woman can "just leave" an abusive relationship. The abusive man is a master at taking away all of a woman's self-esteem, financial independence, and support from family and friends while appearing in public as the perfect gentleman. People who are being abused need support and caring, not accusations that they are "asking for it".
2006-06-26 15:52:28 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not just women who are abused. Men are often abused by women too. Usually abuse tends to run both ways in a relationship.
It is never a person's fault to be abused initially. If the person chooses to stay with their abuser they are condoning or accepting the behavior. In that sense they are at least partially responsible for what is happening to them. There are options besides staying.
2006-06-26 15:34:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never the fault of the abused, but that won't matter if it goes to far one day and she loses her life, there are lots of programs in every state where a woman can get help if she ever decides to start living for herself again, a good start is always the Salvation Army which is located in every state in the U.S., never sell yourself short, somewhere out there is someone who wants to love you without the abuse.
2006-06-26 15:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lynn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman is not at fault for abuse a real Man would never put his hands on a woman .Any man who feels they need to abuse any woman needs to see a doctor to discuss his inner emotional issues.Maybe as a child he was physically or sexually abuse himself and now needs help.
2006-06-26 15:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by kingtoocan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes AND No.
If a person stays in an abusive relationship (i.e. they have never known any other type of relationship and so stay with what they know) then it CAN become your responsibility that the abuse continues.
YOU have the choice to stay with the abuser or leave.
It is rather like giving an alcoholic a drink.
If you give an alcoholic a drink then you are enabling their habit.
When you stay with an abusive person you become an enabler and basically say "It's okay to continue abusing me".
While there is NO excuse for violence one must be aware of what THEY are doing to contribute to the abuse; like staying with the abusive person, justifying the abusive person's actions, taking the blame upon themselves, etc.
Take a lesson from "The Four Noble Truths" in Tibetan Mahayana Buddhism.
1st Noble Truth - No matter what happens or whether or not we cause or deserve it; suffering happens.
Example: You are in an abusive relationship.
2nd Noble Truth - Find out why the suffering has happened and how one contributes to and causes their own suffering.
Example: You continue to stay with the abusive person, justify their actions and take the blame for their actions upon yourself so that they no longer feel they are responsible for abusing you.
3rd Noble Truth - Figure out how to end suffering and the causes of that and all subsequent suffering.
Example: Leave that relationship and get counseling to figure out what draws you to those type of persons, realize you are worth more than that and learn what distructive behaviors in you attract you to abusive people and attract them to you.
4th Noble Truth - Never allowing the suffering to happen again and learn how to prevent or limit any future suffering.
Example: Break out of the distructive pattern of behavior you have been caught in, go out with people who are not abusive and whom don't fit the pattern of abusive behavior and NEVER ALLOW ANYONE TO ABUSE YOU EVER AGAIN!!!
Good luck with that one.
Sworddove
2006-06-26 15:55:20 · answer #6 · answered by sworddove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you talk of abuse it normally means there is a perpetrator and a victim. Need more information on what do you mean by abused! The answer to me is how would Jesus treat this woman? I also think men who hit or use their strength against women are weak!
2006-06-27 09:17:19 · answer #7 · answered by Tom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is partly if she stays in the relationship. I know from my own personal experience that when you are in an abusive relationship it takes alot to break free from it and still affects later relationships as well. If you don't listen to your friends and family then it can be your fault too.
2006-06-26 15:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by morning_starvenus 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is always the woman's fault when she is abused. They are clearly the inferior gender and so they should be put in their proper place. All sarcasm aside though, no, of course it isn't.
2006-06-26 15:39:18 · answer #9 · answered by dat girly 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT her fault. Abusers typically blame the victim to try to excuse their inexcusable behavior.
2006-06-26 15:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, just like women "deserve" to get raped, it was the U.S.'s fault for 9/11 and those Americans that got beheaded in Iraq shouldn't have been there...
"BLAME THE VICTIM"
2006-06-26 15:35:11 · answer #11 · answered by R J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋