my solution is for me to take photos of her naked and use them whilst masturbating myself on nights when she's too lazy to give up the sex or tape us having sex and use that
she has said no to both, do you think this is unfair?
2006-06-26 08:16:29 · 14 answers · asked by Beaver L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I dont think its unfair as its her body and her right, but at the same time I think you would be entitled to look at other pornography.
2006-06-26 08:20:28 · answer #1 · answered by zw88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-07-26 06:20:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think there should be some type of compromise. Your wife should be understanding to how you feel. If she doesnt like the porn- she should do something about it!!! She should either let you take pics of her like how you want or tape you guys together for nights that she doesnt want to have sex with you. I was in the same situation with my husband but its was different in a way. I wanted to have sex all the time and he didnt but he loved to look at girls online and at magazines. I would ask him why when he had a wife right here more then willing. If she wont give it up you need to find out why. Its not fair for you to have to throw out your magazines when there is no compromise from her. You both need to meet half way and find out why she doesnt want to be intimate with you because there is a reason for that
2006-06-26 08:40:25 · answer #3 · answered by jucee2283 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i would never allow naked pics of myself to be take nor movies but it is unfair that she will not let you masturbate when she doesn't let you have it.
I do not have a problem with porn though so I don't think I've been much help.
If my man rather watch porn I'm ok with it it gives me a break lol.
2006-06-26 08:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by shellshell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is necessarily unfair. If your wife submits to your requests for photos/videos, there could be huge negative ramifications for her if things ever go wrong between you two or if someone else finds out about the materials.
I think you need to talk to your wife about what porn means to you. Explain that it's just imagery you use to help you relieve yourself. Highlight that it's more "mechanical," not romantic or spiritual. Try to speak about it calmly so as not to provoke anger. Perhaps even offer to let her see some of the porn you watch... if it's not too extreme and you don't think it'd upset her. Try to make her understand; don't use ultimatums like "If you don't let me watch porn, then you need to service me any time I want you to."
2006-06-26 08:25:15 · answer #5 · answered by sariana09 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like men and women have different sexual and emotional needs. I think it would hurt me if a man used porn, like I was not enough for him, even if he didn't feel that way. Many women feel like they cannot compare to the porn-stars appearance and activity-level. Be sensitive to the fact that she might feel rejected and hurt, even if it doesn't show.Continue to communicate and be open about your needs, it is after all a compliment that you would like for her to meet them and not just meet them on your own! Be aware also that women tend to be more focused on emotional things; something simple like being more romantic might just be a way to get you connected again! Tell her that you want to meet her needs; ask her how you can and be open to the fact that it could be something not sexual like "just" talking, flirting, cuddling in the sofa, going on a restaurant, receiving more hugs and kisses, a back massage, or something like that..! Being open to learning new things about each other and not getting stuck in assumptions is often the key..
See it as a challenge and an adventure! Good luck!
2006-06-26 09:21:11 · answer #6 · answered by ayla_sim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not unfair but it is an awful lot to ask of her sometimes we as men decide to do stuff like that then show our friends and that is where it becomes unfair. it is great that you want to gratify yourself with pictures of your wife but in some cases it is more stimulating to watch pro. videos together then maybe you could get her to work with you good luck it took me a long time to get my wife to agree
2006-06-26 08:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by kingtoocan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the wife and the no porn. However, I do agree with your solution. The problem is, she's shy. You need to get her drunk, as my fiance' did me one night, and she'll open up from there. Otherwise be patient. Good luck
2006-06-26 08:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by purpleama456 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey plez.... ya wife want let ya take nudies of her but in ya last question she wants a threesome come on now bev...either you're lying to pass the time by or ya wife has issues that a photo cant fix....now either ya have a freak fa a wife which is a good thang or you have aunt betty fa, a wife .....im trying to help you here but ya gotta stop these lies....keep it real bev...
2006-06-26 08:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is. Either she gives it up or lets you take the pictures.
2006-06-26 08:20:24 · answer #10 · answered by Andy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋