We've been dating for over two years. We're best friends, great lovers and my life without him would be too dark. We were happily engaged at one point until we discovered that we wanted different things for our unborn children. We are different religions and we can't seem to agree on an effective method of raising a child. I would hate if I ended up resenting him if our child chose his religion or the other way around. Plus I feel it would cause the child so much confusion within their own heart. I desperately need a solution on how to raise our children. I understand that seperation might be the wiseest resolution, but I can't give up on us without a hard fight. Please spread some hope on my situation!
2006-06-26 08:16:09 · 5 answers · asked by Dazed 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ok yogishwife...I'm not looking for a judegement and If you would have read a little more carefully you would have realized I am not pregnant. We want to get married and have kids, but we keep having the same argument...how to raise them? Thanks for the comment though!
2006-06-26 08:32:09 · update #1
look i might be in the same boat u are in but almost like that me and my husband what i love very much is not live in the same house together over two yrs now , because of his work , and we have kids together too, i am white and he is mexican and we fight alot when he do come over here to see me and the kids , so i know what u mean that it will be hard for u to left him without a fight , sometime i feel the same way about my husband that i should just left , but my heart will not let me , whatever u do just let your heart tell u
2006-06-26 08:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by angel h 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may be the love of your life...it sounds like you're crazy in love with him. Is it really that important to you if your child should choose his religion over yours? What if your child chose a totally different religion? What if you never are blessed with children? Are you going to let this stand in the way of your happiness? I know it's a very important decision, but what if you break up over this and you hold him in your heart for the rest of your life doing the whole "what if?" routine. That would break my heart more than this future child choosing his religion over mine. There has to be a happy medium here....why not honor both sides and raise the child to know both beliefs and benefit from both? It really sounds like you're trying so hard to justify loving this man and marrying him...why justify it? Love does not know religion and a love like yours may only come once in a lifetime. Please try to make it work hon. *good luck*
2006-06-26 22:57:26 · answer #2 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try counseling with a 3rd party. You are very wise to realize that seperation may be the best for you both if you cannot come to a compromise.
2006-06-26 16:00:07 · answer #3 · answered by cloud9 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH WHAT A MESS! Your first mistake was to get pregnant and not be married.
second mistake was okay your not married DIDN'T EITHER OF YOU ever think about religion.
what is the big deal anyway. you both have already committed sin anyway. FUKING WITHOUT A MARRIAGE.
2006-06-26 15:22:00 · answer #4 · answered by yogishwife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
teach the kid both religions and let them decide
2006-06-26 15:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋