i cry while having sex because my bf is big. i dont know what to do. it turns him off because he thinks he is doing bad. which he isnt but it so painfull. its not my first time but i just cant get used to having sex like that. what should i do? i love him but he is almost to large for me to handle. im not joking i just need help. ive talked with him about it and he said we just wont be able to have sex but i dont want that. is there a way to make my woohoo larger or am i just going to have to be in pain during sex? im not going to be able to get used to it so thats not an option.
2006-06-26 08:13:40 · 21 answers · asked by omg.com 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
im not too young so dont say that just help me fix this problem!
2006-06-26 08:18:14 · update #1
You probably need to see your doctor about this. My opinion that's not normal.
2006-06-26 08:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by cybergal_29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's probably too long instead of too wide.
you can wrap something around the base of his penis to make it shorter so he doesn't thrust so deep. there are things at adult stores or just tie a scarf or something. also, the flatter you keep you legs, the less deep he can go. Try spooning sex too. (lay on sides and be taken from behind) he can't get as close to you in this position.
if he's too big around, you're probably just worked up and nervous. Get lubed and get really turned on and have him go a bit at a time. a little in, and then out and a little farther in and out, etc etc till he can get in without you hurting. that thing stretches to fit a baby, so width shouldn't be a problem if you're properly aroused and lubricated....but i doubt that you are. how can you when you're expecting pain?
also, getting a good sized dildo and finding what you do like, can help you relax so he can get in.
good luck.....i don't know how old you are, but if you are still growing your body may just not be able to respond correctly yet.
2006-06-26 08:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by ladylawyer26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a boyfriend for 5 years that is very well endowed. I am different from you because the pain didn't make me cry. I actually liked it, not totally 100% but it was a good hurt. If you really love your boyfriend and you want to stay with him then maybe you should try masterbating while you are having intercourse. It will make it feel better for yourself and it will relax you more. Another thing is to use a semi large vibrator on yourself. That can keep you somewhat stretched.
GOOD LUCK!
2006-06-26 09:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by JanLeo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure that you are properly lubricated. If you are the least bit dry, it will hurt. I agree with the person that answered about the positions and doing research for the best ones. If it doesn't get any better, than you will need to see a doctor and find out if there isn't any problem with you physically. Make sure, if you are old enough, have your boyfriend go in with you to talk to the doctor so they can ask and answer all of the questions that might come up.
2006-06-26 08:24:09 · answer #4 · answered by brittme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use lubrication EVERY time. It will help with painful friction. Before you have sex, spend at lest fifteen minutes on foreplay- the vagina stretches when you are turned on, and that will help a lot. Be relaxed, too. If you're nervous, your vaginal muscles will tense up and make it hurt more.
Good luck, dear!
2006-06-26 08:20:05 · answer #5 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A woman's vagina can accomodate a human head, so it's just a matter of it stretching. Until you can get used to his penis, if he's willing, there are positions you can try where you will be the one controlling how much of him is inside you. And lubrication helps a lot also.
2006-06-26 10:41:09 · answer #6 · answered by dorky_goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your body is equipped to pass a 10 pound baby. It can hold your man's dick not unless he's hung like a porno-star and shoot, even then them girls can take it. Lube is your FRIEND. I suggest you go buy some. I bet you'll notice a big difference then. Some women just dont produce enough lube that they need. No biggie, buy some KY.
2006-06-26 08:30:25 · answer #7 · answered by lost_carolina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should not be having sex at your age. You're still to young which is probably why it's to painful. Like how old is your boyfriend?
You said you are 14! Why would you lie about being 14.
2006-06-26 08:17:17 · answer #8 · answered by whtecloud 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm sorry about this bad experience you're going through, but since you know you won't be able to get used to his size because it's too large for you. i don't think you guys will last long. one of you will eventually find someone else with whom they'll enjoy the sex better. sorry.
2006-06-26 08:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by Izzo_3x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will be able to get used to it if you have sex so many times with him. Or don't have sex with him? I don't know what to say really. I mean I'd love it.
2006-06-26 08:18:46 · answer #10 · answered by A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not sure exactly what they are--but there are certain sex positions that will feel better because he is so big. do a google search or something, but definitely try different positions and find the one that doesn't hurt as much.
2006-06-26 08:17:49 · answer #11 · answered by boredatwork 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋