It has been a year and a half since I left. I question all the time if it was the right thing to do.We have actually become closer after our divorce and that sometimes gives me hope of a reconciliation. When he dates or I know a woman is interested in him I get insanely jealous. I've tried to date myself but am not truly ready. Is what I'm feeling normal? Is there a healing "time frame"?
2006-06-26 08:09:24 · 7 answers · asked by hipchic_inhiding 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I suppose maybe I should mention my reasons for hope of a reconciliation (at times). When he is around he still wants to hold me, snuggle, kiss, etc. He also still tells me he loves me...he says there has just been so much between us it is hard to think of getting back together, and it scares him.
2006-06-26 08:23:54 · update #1
Not really a "time frame"as such, but you'll know when you're ready. The fact that you haven't moved on, is an indicator that you're not ready. You still have hopes that you can get back together. You really should move on....he already has...he's dating, and you need to also. The healing process will speed up if you date some. Good Luck!
2006-06-26 08:14:58 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I truly feel for you. I'm going through the same thing right now. It is normal. I'm going to tell you some things you don't want to hear. reconciliation probably won't happen. eventually you're going to need to get on with your life. But do it at your own pace. This is going to hurt for a long time.
I'm sorry and i wish you well.
2006-06-26 15:17:02 · answer #2 · answered by Coz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes the feeling is normal. There will be a feeling of thinking that the divorce may have been a mistake, probably for years...It was just recently (it has been 20 years now) that I realized that I had no feeling at all for my ex and we can be kind to one another when we get together for our children. I would suggest getting involved with different social groups or with a charity to take your mind off of the whole thing.
2006-06-26 15:14:52 · answer #3 · answered by EmmaGee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not be planning a reconciliation. Your ex-husband obviously isn't if he's dating other women. You need to totally remove yourself from the situation and move on. You left him for a reason - now really mean it and leave for good.
2006-06-26 15:16:05 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every thing is normal, it's going to take some time.
2006-06-26 15:14:31 · answer #5 · answered by shonnie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what made you leave in the first place..it could take many years...somewhere around 2 to 5 years..
2006-06-26 15:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Chris F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no time frame just feeling
2006-06-26 15:15:20 · answer #7 · answered by buzy_bee_21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋