my ex boyfriend is the father of my 2 kids. When i found out i was pregnant he left now he's back and he wants to be with me again and be there for my kids but lots of times he's said stuff and doesn't keep his word. Should i beleve him
2006-06-26 07:56:48 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To be honest If you have to ask then there is definitely doubt somewhere in the back of your mind. You've heard of the saying once a player, Always a player... well Once a liar, always a liar. But some people do change.... I want you to know that if you do continue your relationship that your always going to have doubts... your always going to be thinking he's hiding something or lying about anything. Just take your time with this.... I wish you the best.
2006-06-26 08:05:49 · answer #1 · answered by April 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not believe him. You can count the rugrats for the number of times, at the very least, which you have accepted him and the prospects for a future with you two together. What's so hard about taking him back?
Now if the question were 'should you trust him?', then absolutely not. But, as with the previous, you obviously did a few times before, why not now again?
Frankly, I think you sold out too cheap long, long ago. But this is the course you are on now, why change? There's going to be heartaches and disappointments, but you are going to get that from any guy. This is a known quantity, and you've almost got him broken in for you (he certainly did the breaking in on you). Unless something needs to change (not just wants to change, that is what you two are already accomplished at)--needs to change--then why change? Take him back.
2006-06-26 15:07:04 · answer #2 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone makes mistakes u have to live and learn. Give him a try again but only if u really love him. don't do it just for the kids i know they need u both but you don't have to be together, maybe he realizes what he has missed out on but lay down the law to him if you decided to get back with him over the things he has done before. Good luck swetie I wish u and your kids the best.
2006-06-26 15:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by Butterfly_Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer, you just need to hear it from someone else.
No you shouldn't believe him. \If he wants to se the kids you should arrange it through a lawyer and get the visits supervised as he may diaappear with the kids if he thinks that is the only way to get with you again.
Move on. He should have been there for you and he wasn;t. Simple. He can't be trusted.
2006-06-26 15:00:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if in the past he was a man that didnt keep his word to many things, i would say that you shouldnt believe him this time. hes only telling you that he wants you back because of jealousy. im involved in that same experience right now. my exbf is going out with some other girl now about a month after we broke up and now i feel literaly like ****. i went insane so i didnt really talk to him, your ex is gonna learn to get over it all and just learn to possibley be friends and take care of your children well or whatever... you shouldnt get back with him..especaily if you dont like him
2006-06-26 15:06:31 · answer #5 · answered by sam_star700 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you know how much hurt he has couse you in the past..
Does he deserve another chance...
He left you when you needed him... did he say why....
Look if you have gutten over him dont fall back for him...
but if youstill love him ask your self wheather or not you can forgive him..
I think you are better off alon with your kids... he behaived like a cowgard leaving you when he should of supported you..
BUT ONLY YOU KNOW......
BEST WISHES GOOD LUCK..
2006-06-26 15:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...committment issues? Anything against marriage and why would you have more children with someone who isn't marrying you?
I only know a few people personally who planned to have a family and not marry. Two to be exact.
One question..is he paying child support and does that go away or is he under pressure financially that will go away if he moves in with you?
2006-06-26 15:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by silversurf88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He treats you this way because you let him. He comes back because you take him back regardless of what he has done.
You deserve better tahn that, once a cheater, always a cheater and people don't change overnight...haven't you have enough already? Good luck!
2006-06-26 15:03:18 · answer #8 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only time will tell if he will make the effort in being part of your kids lives. Good luck.....
2006-06-26 15:01:43 · answer #9 · answered by angels 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is something that you'll have to do in order to find out if true. Maybe he matured? You won't know until you are with him. I think dads all deserve to be around their kids. (Unless they are bad - you know what I mean).
2006-06-26 15:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋