2006-06-26 07:55:00 · 16 answers · asked by tootall132 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
The answer to your first question is pretty simple. There are plenty of people who have and act on romantic feelings for both genders, so, yes, people can be bisexual.
Your second question is much more complicated, and you will no doubt get a lot of different answers, and the answers will probably biased in part by where they are coming from (gay, straight, bi) and their previous experience with bisexual people.
I can only answer for me, for where I'm coming from. I'm a lesbian in my late 30s, who has been in a committed relationship for 8 years. (We would be legally married by now, if it was legal where we live.)
Back in my 20's when I was single and part of the dating scene, there was a definite bias in the lesbian community against bisexual women. That takes some explanation.
First, when I use the word bisexual, I mean it the way that I used the word in answering your first question: bisexuals are people who have and act on romantic feelings for both genders.
There are plenty of young women, even moreso now than 10 years ago, who believe bisexual means "I'll marry a man, but messing around with women when I'm drunk is sorta fun."
THOSE types of bisexual women are the ones that the lesbian community is really against. Most of my lesbian friends have, at one time or another, dated a bisexual woman, gotten emotionally involved, and then gotten dumped for a guy, because the girl wasn't in it "for real" ... just "for fun."
That being said, I do have bisexual friends, both men and women, and I don't care one way or the other that they are bisexual, just as I don't consider whether a person is straight or gay before deciding to befriend them. Cool people come in all flavors, you know?
So I will say this in conclusion to all the bisexual people out there, regardless of how you define the word: if you get into anything more than just a casual hookup with a gay person, PLEASE tell them that you are bisexual, and talk about what that word means to you. Open communication about this (like most things in a relationship) can really keep people from getting hurt.
2006-06-26 08:27:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people can be bisexual. If not, then I don't exist.
Unfortunately, some gays and lesbians don't accept bisexuals because of the following myths:
1. Bisexuals are "confused" or still in the closet.
2. Bisexuals are not capable of being monogamous, and will dump a same sex partner for an opposite sex partner.
3. Bisexuals can hide in the heterosexual community when the going gets tough.
4. Bisexuals sleep with the enemy.
5. Bisexuals do nothing for the gay cause.
None of the above truly represents bisexuality. Bisexuals are no more likely to be unfaithful than heterosexual or homosexuals. Also, bisexuals feel hurt just as much as gay people when forced to deny their same sex attractions.
Luckily, things are changing, and more gays are becoming bisexual friendly. The term LGBT also helps.
2006-06-26 16:11:45 · answer #2 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, people can be bisexual. And while they are tolerated there are many places where they are not totally accepted. Gays & lesbians are people, and just like straight people and some are not as accepting of things they don't understand as they should be.
2006-06-26 16:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by sugarfemme23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I am Bisexual and for the most part I am accepted by gays but they also are kind of condescending to me as well. They think that I am not as far along the path to gayness as they are. I am not going to get any more gay than I am and I am not going to get any more straight than I am so I wish people would except me as I am and not just as a gay who is not all the way out.
2006-06-26 15:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by ♂ Randy W. ♂ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a person can be bisexual, and they will still be accepted. Yet there are also some gays who will tell a person who is bi that they need to make up their mind.
2006-06-26 15:21:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a person can be, and many gays and lesbians accept them just fine. Some are afraid -- because it hurts even more to lose a b/f to the gender that is preferentially inappropriate to you. But certainly you are accepted.
Believe in yourself.
*hug*
reyn
2006-06-26 15:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure thing, I did my dissertation on why people are gay and my conclusion was that everyone is Bi but to different degrees. Gay just means you are on one side of the scale (still bi but 99% geared towards the same sex) and straight the other side. Bi people come in the some where in the middle.
Unfortunately if your Bi there tends to be a lot of 'can't make their mind up' & 'greedy' steriotypes but thats down to ignorance rather than factualy based opinion.
2006-06-26 15:54:24 · answer #7 · answered by chrisjamesreid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a bisexual female, and i have been in the scene for many years, i have a lot of gay/lesbian friends who accept me for just who i am. W/we can not change who we are inside or who we desire to be with. It's better to be open and honest with who are, than to be fake and hide what is inside of you.
2006-06-26 15:20:08 · answer #8 · answered by Dreamy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A person can be bisexual and deserve to be accepted by anyone, whether that person is gay, straight, black, white or purple!
2006-06-26 15:03:06 · answer #9 · answered by Vixen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any person that is sexually attracted to both men and women is bisexual, and I've certainly never heard of any discrimination against bisexuals by homosexuals.
2006-06-26 14:58:43 · answer #10 · answered by weofui 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋