You know how people always say to tell the people you love you love them every day? Well, wouldn't you think if you say "I love you" a hundered times a day that the words start to lose their precious meaning? It becomes automatic and feelingless, and love isn't. I was thinking, and maybe that's why so many people are divorced. They say it and don't mean it. Are TOO eager to show their "feelings" when it is like a "I have to love you" kind of thing. As time goes on, are people less passionate about love? This is a serious and random question, please answer seriously.
2006-06-26 07:54:35 · 19 answers · asked by ~S~ is for Stephanie! 6 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I feel my husband is saying it to placate me... to shut me up because I'm bitching about something... to put an end to a fight...etc. If you mean it, show it instead of saying it. Not with big elaborate gestures or gifts, which are great if you've got a big chunk of change to spare, but just as romantic, is a hot pink post it note with a few choice words on it tucked secretly in a coat pocket to be found on a rainy day when you're in a really bad mood when it will do the most good. *grin* Just my two cents.
2006-06-26 12:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It reminds me of foreign countries where a kiss on the cheek is a standard greeting (Southern Europe, or Latin America). There, a "first kiss" doesn't mean as much as it would in other countries, such as the US.
I think the interesting thing about your question is that saying "I love you" is easy, and, as you suggest, has a lower value. But the action of love is difficult. When I think about the high rate of divorce, I can't help but think that the actions of people simply don't follow the words. Or perhaps we rely on the words to decide to get married, and the actions never follow.
"As time goes on, are people less passionate about love?" Over a long relationship, love will change, from the excitement of a new person, to the slow everyday security and warmth of another human being by your side. A relationship without that kind of progression generally fades fast, as there is nothing to support it when the rent needs to be paid, or there is no food in the fridge. But having steady relationships with someone is the best route to good health, wealth, and happiness.
2006-06-26 08:18:54 · answer #2 · answered by Polymath 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I tell each other that we love each other every day and sometimes two or three times. We've been married over 30 years. Yes, we are less passionate if you are talking about frequency, but not about each other. Most of you seem to be young so you will come to realize this....after you have lived so long, been married for so many years, you have been through a lot of good times and tragedies. We have lost loved ones and friends. You never know when your time on earth is up and I think we both want to be able to remember that the last thing we said to each other is "I love you". The same holds true for my daughters and my grandchildren. Whenever we leave them, I always say "I love you" just in case.
2006-06-26 08:08:00 · answer #3 · answered by cmdynamitefreckles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-15 07:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The words do not lose their meaning if they are still true.
And I always thought the saying meant not necessarily tell them in words, but in actions. (for example instead of saying "I love you," leave a little heart made of raisins in their cereal...awww!)
And yes, as time goes by people are less passionate about love. When we first "fall in love" our bodies release happy chemicals to make us all excited inside every time we see that person (our body wants us to mate)... as time goes by the chemicals wear off, stop being released, we get used to them. Maybe that's not the passion part of love though. I can't remember.
Google the 3 kinds (or types?) of love and you can read all about the way psychology looks at love.
2006-06-26 08:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by Liza128 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a difference between saying "I love you" every day, and saying I love you a hundred times a day. I think it's important to say it on a regular basis, but when a person gets saying it so much they're usually insecure and want reassurance that someone loves them too. And in the case of love, actions speak so much louder than words
Why are so many people divorced? because people are selfish. It's OK to have self-interest, but people are so 'in it for themselves' they never tough out the hard times they have to get past in able to have a MORE meaningful and loving relationship.
2006-06-26 08:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I notice that you are comparing "never" expressing your emotions to saying it "a hundred times a day." Maybe the answer is that we need to find the correct number of times to express our emotions--which might vary from one individual to another.
Your point is well-taken. Perhaps we do sometimes lose sight of the importance behind our actions/statements. This is why the traditions of religion are often criticized--the modern practitioners may have no clue about the reasons behind the things they are doing.
But in a relationship (you are talking about love) this gets more complicated--because one person may need to hear it more than the other needs to say it (or vice versa). Perhaps the real answer is in finding unique ways to express one's emotions rather than just saying the same words over and over again.
2006-06-26 08:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by tdw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words are the greatest creation of humanity, and if a person didn't express his/her love to the other, how they can be sure of their love?
Saying "I love you" more and more, when you mean it, keep your communication for long time..
When you're really in love, saying I love all the time becomes not enough.. So you need to expand your dictionary in order to add more passion to your words, and make them really out of your heart.
2006-06-26 08:05:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I appreciate your quest in this. Love IS serious. When people want someone to tell them every day they love them, they are really saying, "I want to be loved by you" or "I want you to love me". You should never say "I love you" if you don't mean it and to feel love for someone and not tell them when you feel it is a crime. Usually it's the woman who is lacking hearing this from the men because women's emotions are more hightened and sensitive. I usually tell my wife I love her 2 or 3 times a week.
2006-06-26 10:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by elthe3rd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...I think you cant overuse the word love, IF YOU MEAN IT, if you dont mean it then ya.....
I think many people are divorced because the romance is lost, not because of the word love but because of everything in general, they lose interest when they have to spend years with the same person...
or they divorce because they realize that they werent right for each other in the first place!
2006-06-26 07:59:46 · answer #10 · answered by Sofy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋