My boyfriend is being discriminated at work for some unknown reason and may end up getting the sack. he is a policeman and his tutor hates him this man is now stirring crap about him and making my boyfriends working environment very unpleasant.
He has only just started the job so this tutor basically decides whether or not he stays.
I'm so upset because being a policeman is a role he was obviously born into and it's so sad to see it being taken away from his. What can we do?
2006-06-26 07:52:34 · 23 answers · asked by Little minx 5 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
Is your boyfriend in a union? This should be your first point of call if not try going to your local citizens advice bureau. Tell them you have a bullying issue. They will be able to set you on the right track.
2006-06-26 07:58:51 · answer #1 · answered by louise 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest your b/f go to the shift supervisor with his complaint. Explain the situation in a very professional manner and see where that goes.
Without more information i'm afraid that's the best answer I can offer. I am assuming by tutor you mean his field training officer.
There is the possibility that this is all part of a ribbing your b/f is getting to put pressure on him to see how he handles himself. We had a similar thing in the Navy.
Good luck to your b/f. Tell him to stick to what's right. If he does what's right then he should be fine. If he is and his T.O. is on the take or something, that could be a reason too.
2006-06-26 10:45:58 · answer #2 · answered by smutulator 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he a cop in the UK?
If so then he should speak to his sergeant or the Federation (Police Union) for advice.
It takes a lot more than bad reps from the tutor for a probationer to get the sack. He needs to just work hard and try his best and the rest of his colleagues and supervisors will see that and he will be fine.
2006-06-26 09:59:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this is a common problem and happens to most of us to some extent sooner or later in life.
I empathise as it has happened to me, and it feels very unfair. The first thing is that your boyfriend will need extra support from you and his family to help him through this. Tell him you will support him. It will probably involve a lot of listening, as it will help if he offloads how he feels.
If this makes his angry - it helps to work it out in the gym. Workouts and talking will help him to get through this - it is important that he is able to express how he feels safely - but doesn't "lose it" in front of his tutor.
Sometimes the person who is being so difficult might remind you of someone from the past. If so, identifying this can help.
Tell your boyfriend not to let this tutor get to him. He can get through this and learn from it.
He could try being direct (very poilitely and with respect) and telling his tutor how he feels.
If all else fails - imagine the tutor naked.....or 3 years old....or dressed as a banana. At least that will help your boyfriend to keep his sense of humour!!!
2006-06-26 08:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by Suzita 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend should document each incidence that has occured. If there are witnesses have them collaborate his story by writing their own memos for the record. When he has all this written down he should schedule an appointment with the HR rep and present the information, asking for advice. If he can do so in a neutral manner he may stand a much better chance of having his position noted and remedied.
Good luck.
2006-06-26 08:01:41 · answer #5 · answered by Momof2girls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
report his tutor to some one hire. but being a policeman isn't an easy job so he's tutor is probably trying to get the best out of your boyfriend by pushing him and your boyfriend is probably taking it the wrong way.
2006-06-26 08:02:55 · answer #6 · answered by Kelly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you and you boyfriend considered that perhaps this is a test, a Policeman's job is stress and more stress,maybe his tutor is doing his job and trying to weed out those who may not be able to hack it and save the probationer extra grief, good luck to you beau.
2006-06-26 08:03:15 · answer #7 · answered by ♣ My Brainhurts ♣ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This could also be a test as to whether he is a "tell tale" and to see if he is willing to stand on his own two feet.
Tell him to stick it out and prove this tutor wrong. If he can't stand the pushing of the training, then he won't make it as a copper.
2006-06-26 08:09:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should discuss the matter with his line manager (or if this his tutor, then with the person above). Discrimination is taken very seriously in the police force - or so they assure us.
2006-06-26 07:58:37 · answer #9 · answered by Owlwings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think that your guy will make a good copper, but his tutor obviously doe's not agree
We have got enough crap coppers already.but it doe's not matter if he gets the sack because you know what they say?? "
ONCE A COPPER always a COPPER.!
2006-06-26 08:07:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋