why is it that when my fiancee and i fight, she always does things that i hate?
does she love me no more?
why does she hurt my feelings and turn everything like it is my fault. she never accepts blame?
should i just stop talking to her and wait for her to decide what she wants?
i have tried talking to her and made things clear, but it is always me doing the talking!!
2006-06-26 07:52:07 · 5 answers · asked by set d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If I were you, I'd really step back and think about what you're getting yourself into BEFORE you make this big step.... you and your fiance' obviously have some communication issues that should be discussed AND come to terms with...it does'nt matter big or small issues. She needs to open up to you and really express the way she's feeling...PLEASE dont make this step of a lifetime until YOU and SHE are both on the same page...it will only lead to divorce I'm afraid...good luck to the both of you and remember, ...love is'nt ONE-SIDED!!!! God Bless you both!
2006-06-26 08:07:56 · answer #1 · answered by candi c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like immaturity to me. Do you want a life time of this. If you marry her it will only get worse with time. When you are not fighting talk to her calmly and explain your feelings and see what happens. If this can not be resolved think good and hard about marrying her. My son went through this and finally they had to get a divorce as she was so bad about it. There are plenty of sweet girls out there.
2006-06-26 08:11:48 · answer #2 · answered by # one 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tighten up the screws and tell her that a marriage is based on good comunication skills and love, not hurt and finger pointing. Consider going to pre-marital counseling to help you improve the way you handle conflict as a couple. Good luck
2006-06-26 08:01:11 · answer #3 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she doing this because she knows how to hurt u and knows your weak spots you showed them to her now every arguement u and her have shes going to go for it also she feels as if shes taking away your manhood away and your pride also she thinks that shes right and always have to have the last word well startto put your foot downl et her know thisi s not a 1 way street its a 2 way street 2 people ina relationship and u have a voice as well and your going to speak your mind whether she wants to hear it or not and if she cant accept that u need to reevaluate your relationship with her
2006-06-26 08:05:11 · answer #4 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm... sounds like a control thing. my husband does that to me. Can't accept responsibility. Tell her to grow up.
2006-06-26 07:56:03 · answer #5 · answered by charlie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋