how do I make myself not shy around girls?

Question

I dont know what to talk about. When I'm with a group of friends i don't know what to say?

Answer 1

being shy is a hard thing to get over. but you can do it. make sure that you introduce yourself to everyone. don't just make small talk. talk about something that she likes. or get to know her better like asking what kind of music she listens to or what kind of hobbies she has. just pretend that this is someone that you know. and the #1 that that you must have is confidence!
Good Luck 2 ya!

Answer 2

Just relax, try hanging around with a group of friends and try to socialize with different kinds of ppl!! i am shy like u too, so ur not alone don't worry b happy. Always try to b assertive in who u r n the rest will fall into place, give urself that push or u can imagine that ur someone else like a popular rockstar or something n go from there, whatever works for u!! good luck!!

Answer 3

Ever thought you were a good actor? Then let's get this show on the road. First, you are you--not that crazy, over-infatuated, blithering idiot that you turn into when she is around. Honest about everything that makes you into you--except the nervous nelly when she turns your brain into jelly.

Screw up some courage and some cool and just be you. What's the subject of the moment? Talk about that. Better yet, think of someplace interesting to you and possibly to her, and then say "I'm going to --whereever--, want to join me?" Whether she says yes or whether she says no, then just go to --whereever--like you said. Next time, if she doesn't, then talk about the interesting things you saw or did. If that doesn't work, move on to another girl. Confidence is the big part.

Answer 4

LOL That is too cute. Take it from me, girls are like...hmm...delicate flowers. A delicate flower must be given room to grow and thrive. You are the sunlight for that flower. Shyness, in all honesty, some girls find extremely sexy; however, if you want to beat your shyness you are going to have to ask that girl you have been crushing over out. From what the question entails it seems like you are nervous of rejection. Don't be. Rejection only makes the heart grow stronger. It also teaches life lessons. So to break the shy curse go for it. Think about your best hobby and walk right up to your crush and say hi then after that ask her what she is doing on such and such a day. Butterflies only mean you really are crushing on this girl. Take a deep breath and go for it. :)

Answer 5

Pay attention! Girls like it when you pay attention to them. Do your homework..find out about her. If you know something about this girl...classes, sports, friends, activities....let her know you noticed she was into this and that...."say I saw you at the track meet...you did well...I was impressed" or compliment her..."you looked very pretty or you were always smiling....you have a great smile"

Ask the girl you like if you can talk to her in private away from everyone, that way she will know your not making a show and that you are interested in just her. (and it will make her feel....sorta special)

Talk about things you are interested in and have knowledge about. AND it helps if it is also or related to something she is interested in as well...that way you will be able to carry a conversation...and it can be interesting for both of you.

Ask her if she has seen a new movie that's out...(if she says no, ask her if she wants to go see it) ask her about music....get her e-mail...if you are able to get to know her via e-mail first than when you guys meet up you will have more to talk about and you wont be so nervous. Its really all about confidence...if you have it girls will notice you.

Be yourself and everything will fall into place. If it doesn't work out the first time....keep trying...hold your head up...it just takes a little practice!

Good Luck....

Answer 6

i dont see a reason why you should be shy around girls.on the other hand, try to open out and let them know more about you.maybe you're scared that they may not like you for what you say but unless you go for it, you would never know what sort of things you could talk about to them. and its totally harmless i can assure you because we hardly pay attention to the minor details.what we pay attention to is how you speak out and how well you get along and mix with us. so dont feel shy because you wouldnt even know if the one of the girls is worse shy than you are! so just take it easy and make yourself comfortable when you're amidst them.


hope i helped.but i can give you a guarantee that you cant mess up while talking to girls unless you bring up strange topics and weird discussions...just be polite .

Answer 7

why would you be nervious around girls? They are just another person on this earth. they think diff and talk dif but the girls are the humans that have kids not a lot of diff between us and them, if there is a lot of diff in a group or person , that group or person you dont want to be around , please dont try and be diff to inter act with girls or groups , you will met all the wrong ones for you if you try and fit in . Belive me you want the right ones!!! please remeber thay are smart and careing , just sometimes it doent seem like it to you, keep in mind males think diff than females and its ok to be diff. the shyness will go away JFB

Answer 8

Join a co-ed sports team such as track if you are in school and maybe a cycling club if you are out. It gives you common ground to talk about, and you will meet a lot of people. It will also give you something to talk about around your friends

Answer 9

Man..this is an easy one. Get shot down a lot. Your skin gets thick and it means nothing after a while. Talk to a lot of women...anyone you like or think is funny...say something to them. Be nice...like the women you talk with and they will like you. If you enjoy someone's company they likely will enjoy yours.

Don't look at talking to women as a way to get them into bed...and you'll feel a lot more relaxed. When you just like to talk to someone and have no expectations its easy.

Answer 10

Just stay cool. Look for common topics, and stay on track. Don't talk about sports, coz girls hate that. Moreover, there is no reason to be shy because you are you and show off who you are.