my best friend is getting married by the courts, she doesnt have a lot of friends cause her and her fiancee are hermits and never go out. but since we date brothers we've stayed close. since i THOUGHT she wasnt going to have a shower or a party I figured I would spend alot of money on her in place of no one else really getting her anything. I spend nearly $100 at bed bath and beyond, and then took her out to a $175 dinner and then out for drinks. I told her before we went that i was going to spoil her since she wasnt goin to have a shower or bacholerette party and she sayd i didnt have to but i wanted to cause i felt bad. so $350 later-she asks me at the bar if i would go out with her and her two brothers' wives & some coworkers. I was shocked this whole time im feeling bad shellin out money i dotn have and she already had these plans with someone else? i told her i couldnt make it but im pissed should i tell her or let it go? the thing is i spent alot of $ and time on this!!!
2006-06-26 07:43:55 · 4 answers · asked by toolate 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
who knows when those plans were made, and she didn't ask you to spend anything on her - she may have asked because she had these plans made in advance and didn't want to be rude and just have to go, and she wanted to show you she appreciated you! Try to remember, she's your friend!
2006-06-26 07:49:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought that maybe her brother and their wives might feel the same way you do? They were feeling sorry for her and wanted to do something nice like you did? You should go. And you should be happy for her. But stop spending. I'm sure she is very appreciative for what you've done already. Don't ruin a friendship over something so miner. Good friends are hard to come by. Good Luck!
2006-06-26 15:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by ASTORROSE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She invited you because you are her friend, and she appreciated your kind gesture toward her. I do not see where it was deceitful. She was unaware that you were going to do this for her. That was very kind of you to take her out. Just let it go....it will all work out.
2006-06-26 15:01:22 · answer #3 · answered by Pammie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are shellin out money you dont have then you need to stop....shes made her bed and shes gonna sleep in it...only she can make things better for herself....
2006-06-26 14:48:14 · answer #4 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋