hubby is forty, very over weight, self conscious about himself, knows everything, never wrong, always right (would tell you so), makes silly jokes about me to (cashiers, salespeople, family and so on), cracks stupid jokes about everything in general, talks too much to people (they dont want to hear all the details) makes comments about goodlooking women and their boobs on tv, talks too much and goes into full detail about everything, doest like to go or do anything this list could go on.... help what should i do?
2006-06-26 07:41:57 · 36 answers · asked by huh1968 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Set him down and have a heart to heart with him. Tell him that while you love him, certain behaviors will not be tolerated around you. If he loves you, he will respect your wishes. Good luck.
2006-06-26 07:44:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a serious talk with your husband about being insecure. It sounds like the type of behavior that comes from an insecure person in search of attention. Your husband needs to deal with himself (self-image, attitude, hang-ups, etc.) before you can see any real improvement. Furthermore, you need to separate yourself from him. Not like moving out, but I think you should express how this behavior is affecting you, then keep yourself busy, as to give him time with his thoughts. Lastly, please remember everything is by choice! If he chooses to continue doing these hurtful things, it will be by choice. All you have to do is decide what CHOICE you will make!
2006-06-26 07:48:59 · answer #2 · answered by Lois 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i could be u bliv that i would have wanted divorce coz i really can not stand these kinda ppl ...ur hubby is just like ma fu(ker(father) and he does these stuff and i live with ma family but what i do i dont talk to him for like a year or other word we talk just 2 times or 3 times in a year but i know some day am not gonna see him ne more coz hes ma father but what u have to do just move on c'mon ur hubby is Banging ur image dont let him to do it or ask him to stop ****** doin it other wise u would stay with him no longer
2006-06-26 07:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love him! Seek counceling if you think that will help but I feel you should just try to talk to him and express your desire for him to change. Maybe start acting like he does to illustrate how he comes accross. If you take your wedding vows seriously, then do not even consider a divorce. It sounds like he may just be going through a mid-life crisis and will possibly outgrow this before long. I hope this helps you! DW
2006-06-26 07:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jimmy Pete 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow he sounds pretty annoying. Do you still want to be in the relationship? Is this something you want to fight for. If you so, try to talk to him about the issues, maybe see someone to help you both work out the issues. You cant change who he is, but maybe you can work through behaviors, like commenting on tv boobs.
If this isn't a relationship you want to fight for, why stay in it? Maybe its time to walk away.
2006-06-26 07:46:25 · answer #5 · answered by bluechick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hubby is a smartass know it all. Tell him you don't like his behavior and point out examples . Ask that he learn some manners and discretion not everything is meant to be told to everyone all the time. Maybe explain to him what it is like and say how would you like that. He needs to wake up .
2006-06-26 07:58:21 · answer #6 · answered by jeff7241 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on now darling, you know I don't talk too much.
Patience girl, you'll outlive me and get a good makeover with the insurance money and have some real studs at your door all soon enough. Show this to me at my breakfast coffee, baby, and then watch my reaction.
2006-06-26 07:52:01 · answer #7 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you dont mind this deuchbag i would go put your patience into something worth the investment. Leave him and dont feel guilty but consider the fact that some people can change to say otherwise is just ignorant.
2006-06-26 07:45:05 · answer #8 · answered by MiLk*MAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is fat and insecure and proud. He doesn't know everything and his insecurity manifests itself, when he's rambling on about trivialities, gossip and stupid comments. If he says anything derogatory to or about you, that is a subconscious attempt by him, to make himself feel better...
What to do? If he could eat better and exercise regularly, his weight would drop and he would feel better about himself, and perhaps he could then lay off the nervous yakking...
2006-06-26 08:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by mrearly2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the way u described him is correct he shouldnt be in condition to talk about u most people that are like him seem to do that to make themselves look good but in all reality its making them look bad people may hear him but are thinking u shouldnt talk buddy let him know how u feel and tell him he should respect u because there is alot u can say about him but your his wife and u choose to respect him not degrade him in front of people or behind closed doors i wish u well
2006-06-26 07:55:30 · answer #10 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋